Am I overreacting?

My LO is 4 months and I set some pretty clear boundaries with everyone to not kiss my baby, apart from his dad and I.
My side of the family has respected this and I’ve never seen them kiss him.
Lately, my partner’s mother seems to have forgotten what I said and has started to kiss his head. She now does it in front of me. I’ve let it go a couple of times because she may have simply forgotten but today I went to get my hair done and my partner took him to see her. I’ve been sent pictures of their day and there’s a picture where she’s kissing his head AGAIN!!!
I don’t know if it’s the PMS taking over but I’m really annoyed and upset. It’s getting into the colder months and the last thing I want is my baby to catch anything.
As soon as I saw it I said to my partner “your mum needs to stop kissing him!” He didn’t really react or say anything.
Should I message her and say something or am I overreacting?

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I think it’s just the mouth area you need to be careful of, I said to everyone not to kiss my daughter on the mouth (think it’s weird anyway) even I don’t kiss her on the mouth cause I’m worried. I just kiss her head or cheeks x

My mother in law went to give my little one a kiss goodbye yesterday i thought she would go for his head or cheeks but I was shocked when she kissed him on the lips! I was not happy at all just not wise! I don’t kiss him on the lips as we carry so many germs! Need to somehow let it not happen next time without out tense fall out. So tricky!

I dont think you're overreacting at all. I find people just don't seem to respect my wishes about this and the anxiety it causes me is off the charts.
I have tried asking people not to, I've said it in person and over text before hand. Madness that they won't listen. Xx

I had this EXACT problem with my MIL feel like we’re talking about the same situ 😂 I basically had a polite conversation with her and said firstly it sets off my anxiety as I don’t want my LO to catch anything and we are going into colder months now where Covid, colds etc spread easily so I please just ask don’t kiss him, put fingers in his mouth, kiss his hands if that’s ok. I haven’t seen her since I had this convo as it was only end of last week but I’d had the convo with my husband that if she doesn’t respect my wishes when I made it very clear that she won’t be able to hold him until I can trust again as it’s for your baby’s safety and as their mums that’s our priority isn’t it☺️ also I just don’t think anyone other than the parents NEED to kiss your baby? Why can’t people just hold them and enjoy that these days🤣 baffles me… x

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