My baby won’t have a Grandma and I’m struggling with emotions about it!!

My mom and grandma both passed away about 4.5 years ago (only a few months apart) and my boyfriends mom passed away 1.5 years ago. My Dad is still around, but he has had strokes and has brain damage and can’t be the “normal grandpa and my boyfriend doesn’t have his dad in his life.

I am having such a hard time with the fact that my baby won’t get to know their grandparents. Is anyone else struggling with this? I’m not fully connected to my family. I still talk to my sister (but she’s super toxic), but only because of her kids. I want my baby to have a happy family and I’m scared that they won’t get to experience that. 😢 It’s been making me soo emotional lately and I don’t know how to comfort myself.

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It’s not exactly the same situation, but my mom passed away a few weeks ago and I’m 5 months pregnant. She was both mother and father to me since she was a single parent. My father is somewhat trying to be in the picture now as I’m an adult, and my fiancé s parents want to be involved, but I can’t help but feel really resentful. Like time and moments were stolen from my mom and child. There’s nothing like being able to see your mom and baby bond, and probably no one I’d trust the same with my child. I try to remind myself that my mom will still see my baby and her milestones, just not in the same way we are humanely present. Your mom and grandma are your baby’s angels now.

Also, your baby can still experience a very happy family…it will be the one you and your boyfriend create for them. We are born into family, but we also create family in the form of life-long friendships and community.

My husbands mum passed away 5 years ago, and his dad is an alcoholic so he wont be in the babys life either. And neither of my parents are in my life. So my baby won't have any biological grandparents either. But I'm really close with my best friends parents so they will have honorary grandparents

My babies will never meet my dad since he passed a couple years back… but I do have a picture of him framed in my sons room and he takes it around all over the house and talks to it. My dad used to do block work so I find my son sometimes taking his building blocks and making stuff in front of his picture. Or he will bring it out of his room and set it next to me and leave. Its comforting for me and my child. Maybe you could try and see if it helps any and talk about your loved ones with them so it’s like they are involved in a spirit aspect.

I know how you feel I lost my mum 2009 still miss her so much I wish she was here to see baby! I still have my dad he's remarried but I don't feel right having this baby call her gran I feel that's disrespectful to my mum. so my baby won't have a gran either but I have my brother and his wife. It's not a nice feeling having lost our mums I hope ur OK x

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So this child is three months old and she isn’t being fed from 10pm till 6/7 am idk if this is normal or safe and it’s been like this since 2 months i believe as she won’t wake her for feeds she goes to the pub drinking most nights with her baby and her baby has already been in hospital with a very low temperature bc she was outside but as soon as she was in a warm car she warmed up and doctors said she was fine she lets cats play with her bouncers toys that go over her and doesn’t strap her in she is cold from what i’ve heard from other family members and they’ve tried to warm her hands and she’s wet herself at my parents and she hasn’t had a spare vest to put on her and i offered her a blanket as she didn’t have one and she declined and she won’t listen to anyone about it she’s already left the baby with my parents for the night to go out drinking and personally i couldn’t leave my three month old because my parents said she just cried and im really unsure whether to report her or not and her house smells of dog wee/poo as she’s never home to look after them and that’s not safe for the baby i understand being lonely but she doesn’t need to go to the pub every night her friends could
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to hers or her she could go to a cafe that has closed doors not sat outside a cold pub and it’s a bit of a rough pub in my opinion

my parents are concerned btw but they say i shouldn’t report her as it’s not fair but i feel how the baby is treated isn’t fair

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After years of trying, months of back and fourth on the fate of our marriage, indecision, fights. The whole enchilada my husband and I are separating, divorcing. Whatever. I'm so goddamn heart broken. I feel like it's a death and I'm in mourning. We have a 3 year old son and currently and for the foreseeable we are going to coparent and live together. This makes things harder because neither one of us can really move on but it's how it is. He understands and he's trying to heal too. But I can't understand why now that things are over he can be kind. He's been more amazing in the last week since I ended things than ever. Why couldn't he do that when we were together for years I begged for change, we saw a counselor I tried everything and he just wouldn't. Now he seems to turn a switch and be able to just do it all. But it's too late. My heart aches. My body aches. Love sucks.

Partner works incredibly long hours, how much do they help out?

I'm struggling. Have been for a while. I've had one break from parenting my daughter, that was for 3 hours in December when I left her with her dad.

She's 14 months old and I'm just tired. I've done every night by myself. He's out of bed at 4am and doesn't get home until 7-9pm. He drives for work, very physically tiring.
On the weekends he was doing 6 days, one weekend day off, but now has both off.

He doesn't sit on the floor and play with her, he doesn't read to her because he says she doesn't have the patience.
He will pick her up and hold her whilst he's cooking.

Recently I've been "snappy" with him.
He got back from the mechanic last weekend, she was getting onto the sofa and he put his headphones on and started to watch Netflix on his phone.
The same day I told him I was going to run her bath and to watch her whilst she was still eating, he fell asleep on the sofa.

Today he went to football after going shopping, so was out 1-3 and then from 4-8.
He got back and I was snappy.

"I don't get why you're so snappy with me"

I said - Probably because I haven't had a break since December.

"Do you think I don't know you haven't had a break. I haven't had a break", "I just won't go to work, I'll sit at home all day".

Then "do you think I like not having a connection to my child"... But that's on him? He never sits to play with her. He "doesn't see the point". He's stated that this age is boring to him.

Since she's been born, he has been to a friend's once a month. Football - He stopped going for 7months, but has been the last two weekends.

Are these not breaks?

He does do the washing/washing up/cooking/vacuuming when I haven't had a chance to; but I'm the one in charge of feeding her, naps/bedtime, teeth brushing, hair brushing, baths, dressing her, making sure she has the right shoes, appointments etc. Everything falls on me.

If your partner works ridiculously long hours, how much do they look after your child? Do you ever get a break?

Am I wrong ?

My daughter’s 1st birthday was Thursday and nobody wished her a happy birthday from her dads family but his mom watched his story. Should I put my foot down and set boundaries for them to accept accountability or should I just let them stay on that side for as long as they want and not worry about it?