Bit of moral support needed

Just after some moral support please. The father of my baby really doesn’t want to have kids and has gone into a real state of depression since I told him I was expecting. Feeling a bit like he is trying to be involved as he thinks that is what he should do, but his heart isn’t in it. I’m alternating between being super angry with him, feeling massively let down and feeling like I will just do this myself.
This should be a happy time not the awful end of the world time he is creating for us. I am hormonal anyway but I just can’t stop crying 😢
Anyone else got any experience similar? What did you do?
Feel like I should just make the decision to do this on my own. Already got 2 amazing kids and we can be a lovely family without him.

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If he didn’t want kids he should have taken that step to prevent having them! That’s not on you to do for him like a child himself. If he is not there for you when you are most vulnerable, that is not love whether he wanted kids or not. He may bond with bubba once he/she is born, it can and does happen but ultimately you cannot control that either way. Try to create a support network around you of trusted friends and/or family and make sure you are prioritising yourself and your mental health. Either way you can do this and you deserve support.

You gotta focus on you and the baby's health. He's a grown man and he needs to deal with his issues on his own. Also, he needs to learn how kids are made if he's so against having them and act accordingly 🙄

Sorry, I need to get something clear, did I mention to you that he doesn’t want kids? What was your take on that? The 2 kids you have are they for him? You need to be super happy for yourself at this moment

Thanks ladies. The other two are not his but you are right he need to bloody sort himself out. I actually think I will be better off doing this on my own x

I'd tell him, look I'm happy about this whether you want to be involved or not. Tell him to take himself away from you, think about it and if he wants to be involved then come back with a different attitude, if he doesn't that's his choice. You focus on you and enjoying this exciting time. If he comes back to help then bonus, if not you're more than capable and obviously willing to do it on you own. Good luck girl ❤️

I think it’s important that you don’t make any drastic decisions while you are pregnant and highly hormonal. Take this time to surround yourself with loved ones, when he gets in a mood take yourself and your children out for the day. What you need to realise is that it’s not you it’s him. Don’t take on the energy he is putting out, I know it’s easier said than done. Let friends and family be your support system. Sending you Love ❤️

I want to tell you what my sister told me when i realised i was going to be single parenting.
You're doing amazing. You're growing another person, and there's nothing more beautiful than the love you feel for them (even though you haven't met them yet!). Everything your baby needs you can give them .. you already are.
The father needs to figure out how he fits in around you and your beautiful baby, if he's going to be there or not.
Build your nest. Place the toys, put together the cot and dress a teddy in pjs, choose a nappy bag, hum lullabies. You are baby's entire world now, and you're making the world they soon will come into

I’m confused why he is with someone who has kids if he doesn’t want kids. If you don’t want children you date someone who also doesn’t want/have children. If he doesn’t want to be involved you can’t force him to be. I would give him the option to be involved or to leave and see what he picks. I’m sorry you’re having to deal with this.

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