How to politely tell someone you don't want their S/O coming to your baby shower

Hi everyone I'm having my baby shower in a couple weeks and I specifically invited certain people, but my fiance's sister is making it sound like she's going to bring her fiance, who, not to sound rude but, I totally hate lol. He's just a huge D-bag, show off, super cocky, misogynistic type of guy (sister in law doesn't see it) and I definitely don't want him coming but I didn't know how to say it without sounding super rude. Obviously it's my baby shower and I can have who I want and who I don't want there but I don't want my sis in law to be upset or think I hate him (even though I do) what can I say to make sure he knows he can't come?

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You won’t get what you want unless you speak up!!! Like you said it’s your baby shower and even if she know that you don’t like him, what she gonnna do about that? Your entitled to dislike/like whom ever.

I don’t want your fiancé to come to the baby shower. He makes me uncomfortable and I want to enjoy my baby shower without being around people I don’t enjoy

You go girl!!! You got this !!!

“I hope it’s okay that we didn’t include xyz on the invitation, we need to keep it small and would’ve had to invite (a different friend) too if we had invited xyz.”

Better if you can have someone else say it.

I know a lot of people think it’s better to be direct, but he is going to be your brother-in-law some day, and I think this is a perfectly acceptable time to just kick that conversation down the road and address it when you don’t have so much going on to keep your baby shower as positive as possible.

Are you having a big party?
If it is a big party - he will just get lost and you can focus on other people.
If it is a small party - you can say its only for your close family and friends and you would appreciate your sister jn law to understand it.

I personally would tell her you hate him but I am just that kind of person. Other than that I would say the venue is at capacity, you already told someone else they couldn't have a plus one, you only catered for x amount of people etc.

Is it a co-ed shower?

If you have a number limit on people say you’ve reached it and so you’re just inviting her. Even offer to let her know later on if there’s extra room he can come but obviously you invited many other people you want there.
My mom invited a bunch of ppl and I let her but when I invited my one aunt she doesn’t like she threw a fit 😒 it’s our parties really and who we want should be there! So even if you have to be blunt and say you just want her there I’d do it

I went out of my way to make sure my man’s aunt wasn’t invited cause she’s always loaded. And I didn’t feel bad about that at all. Lol! Just have an honest conversation with her.

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Is it bad of me to think this or no?

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He came home late afternoon and said I’m so tired, I just need to chill. I said can you wash up whilst I sort kids dinner out, he said he’ll do it later which means he won’t do it and I’ll end up doing it so I said no do it now please otherwise I’ll end up doing it and he said well you have been home and I’ve been away so you’ve just been relaxing.
Don’t know what planet he is on but having the kids alone for 2.5 days is not relaxing. I was stressed!

When he was away, I did miss him and wanted him to come back but now he’s back, I want him to go away again😂
Is that bad?

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Is this normal ? He won’t even try anything I eat .. he really only like pizza fries and spaghetti… nuggets and snacks bananas some other fruit but like anything else he won’t eat if try but I don’t want to force him I’m just I feel like bad I mean he isn’t losing weight I breastfeed mostly still

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I don’t think people who aren’t married/have babies with shift workers fully understand the impact of feeling like a solo parent sometimes.

Does anyone have any advice? I do have parents who can help but I struggle to leave my baby with others as I always feel like they don’t understand the need for tracking wake windows or feeds and our baby will not sleep unless we black out a room or go for a car drive . Everyone seems to think ‘if he’s tired he’ll drop off’ - no he’ll just get overtired and have to then pay for it during his night sleep. So I feel like it’s just easier for me to do it all myself.

When my husbands off work he is great but I do take the mental load of telling him what to do or even reminding him of wake windows etc because he’s not here and forgets routines. He’s also being tested for ADHD currently so there’s that on top of shift work.

Just looking for advice on how to stay sane/keep routines or share loads with shifts workers?

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Feeling like I’m failing

Hey guys, I need some advice or some positivity here!
My daughter is 5 months next week and she has her first tooth coming through! Yay! But for the past month or so she has become so wary of family whenever I go to visit! She screams, won’t settle, cries the whole time. I went for my birthday to celebrate and I had to leave because she just would cry looking at anyone :( it’s so hard because she used to be so good with anyone!

Will this change or is this just the way she is? I try to see them as often as I can, and my MIL is looking after her in two weeks overnight and part of a day and I’m petrified of what’s going to happen, that she’s going to scream. My poor MiL 😭. I’m a very calm and collected person and I don’t get worked up when she does react this way… I just feel so sad and down that I can’t be with family and that my poor girl is scared. I give her so many cuddles, milk, toys, going to a quiet room, but she just doesn’t settle 😭

Please someone say this is a phase and there is light at the end of the tunnel ?!!

With the weather getting nicer I just feel we are going to miss out on so many lovely family memories

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A friend posted this and it really bothers me because that is exactly how she parents her kid, and it's rather unfortunate because when our kids hang out together, her kid has a meltdown at least 5x within an hour. We have know them for years and it's only gotten worse. My kids will concede to hers, because they don't want to see their friend crying, but it sucks because they give up so much of their toys and enjoyment to keep the peace. We aren't hanging out as much anymore but it's rather sad to think she doesn't intervene more in her child tantrums and just let's it slide