Mother in law

Lol would also love to know 😂

I had to do this with MY mom. I told her “please, mom. This is our baby, we are learning if I need your help I will GLADLY ask for it but things have also changed since 1994”. Thankfully my bf mom has been mildly hands off with me (but not my bf😂)

Yeah if I hear one more time “ he doesn’t need to nap” I’m going to lose it

Honestly....I tell my hubby and he's able to talk to her in a way that I can't. He's helped a great deal with having difficult conversations and communicating what I want/need by putting himself in the line of fire instead of me.

No but I wish I had! She’s driving both of us crazy

@Melissa I did something similar. My MIL tried to take my baby out of my arms as I was actively parenting him. "Oh come here my baby boy. Grandma will make it all better." "No, I am soothing MY child. If I need help or a break I will ask for assistance" "I know what I'm doing I raised my boys and this is new to you" "Exactly I need to learn how to do this for myself" and I walked away. I wanted to tell her off but I also think she wasn't doing it to be rude or malicious. I think she thought she was helping. But that's not the only only time she's tried to take him from me. If I hand him to you or you ask to hold him, I'll gladly share...but you don't just walk up and try to grab him from me.

I don't go by them anymore 😆

I ask my husband to talk to her

(And if the issue is my parents then I will talk to them)

why did my MIL do the exact same thing?? My 4 month old was screaming and I thought maybe he was hungry so I was trying to latch him, he obviously wasn’t hungry because he kept screaming but she walked over to me, GRABBED my baby and walked away with him. I started crying. Like she genuinely thought she was helping by taking him away but it made it way worse because then I felt like a total failure for not soothing him myself. It was awful but I was in such shock I couldn’t even say anything in the moment..

@Jessica that's so not ok...I'm sorry that happened to you. I'm sure you're doing wonderfully as his mother. Sometimes babies scream and cry and are unsoothable for a while (at least in my limited experience) I would recommend working on creating a statement to have prepared and on hand incase this happens again, you'll be ready. (Advice from my therapist to me) Make sure it is to the point without necessarily being rude. If you wanna try out your statement or need help you can DM me. I'd be happy to assist. No one, MIL or anyone else, should assume they know better and take your child even if their intentions are to help. I was told "You are the best mother for your child. You were made for each other and that's a special bond only you two have." ♥️

My mother in law inspects my child for problems anytime she holds him and questions every decision I make for him and makes me feel I’m not doing anything right all with a kind voice and smile on her face …then if I say something she acts like I’m telling her she can’t be concerned , yes you can but you also need to trust me and let me do what I think is best as his mother and if I get it wrong don’t hold it over my head. I know I can be overly sensitive sometimes but I just think it is sooooo messed up how everyone thinks they can just tell s mother how to be a mother , we need space to grow on our own

@Mariah That sounds very difficult. As his mother you have final say on how he is raised. Noone is perfect and every parent in the existence of time makes mistakes while parenting. None of us gets it 100% "right" (not that there is a right or wrong way, do what you believe is best)

I literally lost it yesterday and blocked mine... oh my husband didn't agree 😑