Would anyone else find this weird

My son is 2 and in that time my MIL has never bought anything for him to keep at their house. Only 2 little trucks that we deliberately left there. Not even a plate/cup for him to use there. Her granddaughter has a whole bedroom decorated in girly colours, countless toys that MIL has bought, loads of cutlery etc with frozen, Minnie mouse etc on it. Why would she not buy anything for my son? It feels awkward to take a cup over whenever we go visit 🤔 granted she used to babysit for the granddaughter and my son only goes for visits with us. But is that not still a bit weird?

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That’s not weird there’s no reason for him to have have his own stuff there if he isn’t staying there. My dad doesn’t have anything for my son at his.. because he has a five year old daughter so there’s always kids stuff at the house. It doesn’t matter that it’s pink cups and stuff, he can still use them. Buying new ones for no reason seems silly

yeah that's fair enough I guess. I'm maybe over reacting. Its just everything is about the granddaughter it feels, like planning a family weekend away somewhere with a pool because that's what she likes to do, no mention of yeah my son likes swimming as well. Buying new coat for her for winter, nothing mentioned for him etc. When he was a baby they had her old high chair in the loft but nobody could be arsed to bring it down for him. So he would just eat on the couch or wherever

What’s the age difference? and yeah the high chair thing would of annoyed me too tbh

There's 6 years between them

Favouritism of grandchildren is so common now it’s really sad. The plates and stuff wouldn’t bother me but I’d take toys round there and leave them for his age range if your going there often to save you carting stuff to and from there house for him to play with whist there. X

I know it's not really about a plate or cup as such, I know that sounds a bit petty, I think its just the not bothering to get any wee things for him that are just for him x

Also I should have said - I meant taking a cup round because he still needs a toddler/miracle cup type and the granddaughters ones are older

in our community

Is this normal?

Is it just my husband that does this? He is able to work from home via his computer and in the mornings and evenings he is on there doing his job. When he is done for the day he tends to stay in the room and either play video games or watch something. He will occasionally come out and play with the girls for a few minutes and that’s it but when I really need him he says he is busy. My daughters are both 1 year old now and I am just wondering how much involvement should he have with them now?
Idk if this is the norm or not…..

Saying NO to buying toys etc

5 year old is getting really envious of others. He is obsessed with items that other kids have at school. I am pestered daily to buy these things in a different style when we already have 3 others. I have seen parents just buying stuff their kid likes which I don't necessarily agree with even when i can afford it. How do you deal with it?

Daycare?

Thoughts on daycare?? Truly, I am SCARED to be leaving my kid for daycare. I literally do not trust anyone, not even family (they haven’t given me a reason it’s just trust issues on my end, you never know). He’s turning 3 and I’ve been a sahm the whole time but tbh my man doesn’t make enough for us to move out somewhere more calm . We live in a ‘not so safe’ area in LA and I’m just not used to living here so I just want us to give my son a better life and in order to speed up the process I would have to work.. I do lashes at home and I’d be open to take new clients so I wouldn’t have to look for work but I’m just scared to lose my license 😭

Thoughts?

your soon to be brother in law (upon inquiry) told you that only a few kids from the family were attending his wedding because they are over the age cut off..

Tablet for kids

Alright don’t need any negative Nancy’s telling me not to get my 2yo a tablet so if that’s what your gunna do please don’t participate in my poll.

We’re about to move cross country 3+ day trip and my 2yo and 9m hate the car I’m talking scream their heads off till they are out of their seats. We’ve already changed car seats and it didn’t help so I’d like to at least have one entertained and sit next to baby and try and distract her or put her to sleep. Our new car has tvs but since they are rear faced my 2yo can’t see it.

Debating getting her a tablet or dvd player right now on long car rides I end up giving her my phone because I get so overwhelmed sitting in between both of them screaming and crying.

And yes I do bring different toys I bring snacks I play songs try to distract her other ways but for the sake of not losing my mind on this move I think this is best.

-A very overwhelmed and anxious to move mama 😓

Separation Anxiety

My baby is nearly 6 months old and has just entered the separation anxiety stage… this evening I was trying to cook dinner whilst my husband was with the baby and he was just crying every time he couldn’t see me, with full blown hysterical sobbing, and as soon as he saw me again he started giggling and smiling. Any tips on how to stop this? And how long might this phase last?
My husband felt pretty disheartened and upset 😢