Boy mums help

For those of you with baby boys who were NOT circumcised, when did the foreskin separate and started needing to be pulled back for cleaning? Does it happen bit by bit or is it like a sudden kind of thing and how do you know?
My boy is 8.5 months and in the space of a few hours the tip of his penis got really red and looking different and it seems like now it pulls back somewhat so I'm unsure if that's what's happening or if it's something else

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My boy is the same age and not circumcised. Wasn't given the option to tbh. His seem fine atm, but I do wonder when this may happen x

we weren't give the choice either but tbh even if we were, we wouldn't have done it anyways as I don't see the point🤷🏼‍♀️ but I've asked my mum but she doesn't know as my brother had something happen so she doesn't know what way it usually happens and I don't have anyone else to ask

They don't retract until 5 years old check for hairs wrapped around

it was the first thing I checked for but it's definitely not that, the redness went down overnight but it still doesn't look the same as before

I'd take him to get checked xx

My first son is 20 months and his foreskin has not retracted at all. I’ve heard it usually happens between 4-10 yrs old (really wide range is considered normal). Possibly it got forced back accidentally? Maybe check in with your son’s doctor?

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