Soon to be mama

If he ain't turning up now then he certainly has no right to tell you to call him when your in labour especially if you don't want him there. I had suspected my BD of cheating which I've found out is true and he hasn't bothered since I ended things. So I definitely do not plan to tell him when I'm in labour and even have a few days once I've given birth before telling him. If he doesn't wanna be involved now why should he get to call any shots.
But you gotta do what's right for you and your baby xx

that’s definitely what I was thinking. Congratulations to you mama! My baby has brought me so much joy and I feel like he’s sucking it out of me. I want to atleast enjoy my labor because I feel like I earned that moment. I was going to wait a few days to tell him as well. I feel so guilty about it because what about when my son asks questions in the future about his dad not being there ? Does that make me a bad mom?

My advice is to move on and do what's best for you and your baby. Leave the door open to allow him to be a dad but if it is becoming toxic for you or your child, cut it off.

You can create the loving situation for your baby without dealing with the dad romantically.

I no longer want a romantic relationship with him, but I do feel some sort of way about him not being there our son. We Don’t even have to speak, but I would like if he was there at the appts to make sure the baby is good or to coparent and make sure the baby has everything he needs. I don’t even think he’s purchased anything for him, so I don’t think he’s right to make demands just because he helped make him

thank you congratulations to you as well 💕
Your labour is about you and what you are comfortable with, it's the most vulnerable you'll probably ever be and if him being there is gonna stress you that ain't good for baby.
All you can do is like bee said leave the door open for him to make contact. Iv tried reaching out to my bf and his mum and neither of them are returning any effort so as far as I'm concerned I've done what I can and now I'm just protecting my peace to enjoy the rest of my pregnancy and do what I think is best for my baby in the long run.
Kids don't need two parents if one of them isn't consistent and doesn't make them a priority and parenting starts from pregnancy not when you give birth
If you ever wanna chat feel free to drop me a message xx

thank you so much. Same To you! Feel free to message me and have a safe delivery ❤️

he definitely shouldn't make demands and if you don't want him there for labor or delivery then that's your call mama.

thank you for your advice ❤️