I NEED TO RANT

So I’m three months postpartum
I’ve had a lot of stuff happen since I had my baby, mold took over our apartment so we had nowhere to live etc etc
Anyways now we have our apartment and the bf work full time , I’m on mat leave
I’m feeling so overwhelmed with looking after baby and taking care of house and making meals etc
I never have any time to myself
The bf seems to live his life like he used to and I’m so fed up
I keep asking for his help etc
This morning instead of getting up and helping me he goes outside for a smoke and then comes in and says I gotta go be right back in half hour
So now I’m left with the baby again
I’m not expecting anyone to just do things for me but I need a ducking break
He never gets up during the night or does the early morning feed
Nothing
He just gets to get up and go wherever he feels and I can’t do that.
It just feels so fucking unfair
And I don’t even know what to do
I don’t have family support etheir I’m literally been doing this all on my own
And if I go visit someone with the baby he considers that a break for me cuz they hold the baby for me
Like omg I’m losing my mind

in our community

Is this normal?

Is it just my husband that does this? He is able to work from home via his computer and in the mornings and evenings he is on there doing his job. When he is done for the day he tends to stay in the room and either play video games or watch something. He will occasionally come out and play with the girls for a few minutes and that’s it but when I really need him he says he is busy. My daughters are both 1 year old now and I am just wondering how much involvement should he have with them now?
Idk if this is the norm or not…..

Thoughts?

your soon to be brother in law (upon inquiry) told you that only a few kids from the family were attending his wedding because they are over the age cut off..

Tablet for kids

Alright don’t need any negative Nancy’s telling me not to get my 2yo a tablet so if that’s what your gunna do please don’t participate in my poll.

We’re about to move cross country 3+ day trip and my 2yo and 9m hate the car I’m talking scream their heads off till they are out of their seats. We’ve already changed car seats and it didn’t help so I’d like to at least have one entertained and sit next to baby and try and distract her or put her to sleep. Our new car has tvs but since they are rear faced my 2yo can’t see it.

Debating getting her a tablet or dvd player right now on long car rides I end up giving her my phone because I get so overwhelmed sitting in between both of them screaming and crying.

And yes I do bring different toys I bring snacks I play songs try to distract her other ways but for the sake of not losing my mind on this move I think this is best.

-A very overwhelmed and anxious to move mama 😓

Daycare?

Thoughts on daycare?? Truly, I am SCARED to be leaving my kid for daycare. I literally do not trust anyone, not even family (they haven’t given me a reason it’s just trust issues on my end, you never know). He’s turning 3 and I’ve been a sahm the whole time but tbh my man doesn’t make enough for us to move out somewhere more calm . We live in a ‘not so safe’ area in LA and I’m just not used to living here so I just want us to give my son a better life and in order to speed up the process I would have to work.. I do lashes at home and I’d be open to take new clients so I wouldn’t have to look for work but I’m just scared to lose my license 😭

5 month old activities

Hey everyone my baby is 5 months old and I want to reduce/cut screen time as I have read up on how bad it is what activities did people do to keep their baby entertained. Thank you in advance.

I feel physically sick

I was going through my partners phone. He doesnt mind it. I let him go through mine,we have our emails on the tablet im an open book nothing to hide. I fine this one girl on his phone, they know each other they used to work together. Then I see that he is asking about her dating life blah blah. Then he texted "lucky enough you are one of a few beautiful" um WTF & " thats what i said if not i will have been with you" we have a 16 month old together we are engaged. I cant sleep he is sleeping next to me and I feel so sick I cant ive cried twice and I feel like im breaking