Resettling 10+ times a night!?

I put something up last week about sleep but I need to know I'm not alone here. My baby has never slept through the night but we did get to 1x wakeup.

But now she's worse than a newborn! It's been 3 weeks now and she's waking honestly 10+ times a night and needs resettling.

Am I alone in this? Starting to worry that something is wrong!

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We never managed to get to 1 wake up, closest we ever got was 3 but yes were easily over 10most nights now , I don't have any tips as we're in same boat, just sending solidarity x

@Katie so rough isn't it. It's making me think I'm doing something wrong!

We’re on about 8 times 😫

What’s your schedule of the day like? Does she need to drop a nap? What are wake windows and how long are naps? I’m in Woking, just down the road, feel free to message me if you want :)

Glad I’m not the only one! Been like this for a few weeks now. I’ve tried 3 naps during the day to 2, earlier bedtime etc but not working! I thought it may be due to starting weaning?

@Melody ah nice! She's a cat napper I'm afraid, no matter what I do!

I've tried everything! Nothing seems to help. My guess is teething or regression or both 😭😂

Same here, each night is different could be 1 time could be 5+.. Also doesn't matter if he's had long naps or short naps in the day, never know what we are going to get 😂

Same, last night was the first night in 2 weeks that we went back to one wake up at 2am. I’ll be honest, I caved & co-slept! Sending good vibes & coffee your way!!

@Eira im tue same since he hit 4 month its constantly waking xxxx

Maybe it's teething? My boy is sometimes like that, rarely to that extent but will still wake up in pain so I started giving him pain relief before bed and it's really helped

Weaning night feeds has helped us. Took 1-2 nights of going cold turkey and making sure he has plenty in the day and it’s really reduced his wakings x

Yep, in the same boat! 3-8 times a night. 3x on a good night. Used to being a zombie now (kind of). I have to nap in day with him still 😭

just went through 3 weeks of this. he finally went back to sleeping through the night 3 nights ago.

i thought it was a spiel of seperation anxiety/wanting comfort. my lo is 7 months x

how did you wean the night feeds? Did he just cry in night if you didn’t feed him?

Not sure if this is reassuring or not but my little girl was the same; 10+ wake ups every night and I looked into everything it could be but in the end it was just her! She’s 2.5 now and mostly sleeps through (very occasionally wakes once in the night). There are certain red flags to look out for though like mouth breathing that could point to something more x

can I ask , what age did she start sleeping better x

I defo think it’s some development thing my girl has never been this bad with waking up

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Baby clothes

Just out of curiosity, why do parents love zipper onesies?

Don’t get me wrong, I tried zipper ones it’s easy to zip in and out when putting it on the first time and taking it out, but I find it difficult when changing diapers especially when baby is asleep.

I prefer those kimono style buttons where it’s easy to button or too down button with crotch snaps.

Is everyone thinking the same or different? Lol

AITA

In the uk there is an outbreak of meningitis, in a specific area mainly. My BD has family from that area and decided to go and meet up with them, I said if he does then he cannot have contact with the kids for 7-10 days after incase he picks anything up. Am I being over dramatic? I reallyyy don’t want my young kids getting anything serious

This might rattle some people

Ok, this might get a bit long, and a bit bumpy, so get comfy and buckle up.

So about a week or 2 ago, there was a post on here regarding sleepovers. Not letting their child go to them as you can't trust who'll be at the house etc.

Now, given recent incidents in nurseries and schools, plus my own experience back in the 90s, I am more concerned about sending my child to nursery and later school than I am to a friend's house for a sleep over.

The other day a man was jailed for abusing children at the nursery he worked at. A woman has been arrested for sleeping with an underage boy and then getting pregnant by a different underage boy while on bail for the first offence.

Young girls and boys get sexually harassed and bullied when at school, not all of them. But more than you think. And not just by other kids, but by adults who we as parents are trusting to look after our kids.

A sleepover, is a more controlled environment, with only a handful of people coming into contact with your child. A school, a club etc there can be 100s of people coming into contact with your child.

I was targeted at 7 years old by the owner of a prominent private school. Thankfully, I wasn't SA'd. In year 5 of primary school, I started to develop early, I was harassed by the boys and teachers made remarks about how my uniform didn't fit right, always "adjusting it" around my chest and legs.

Years 7-9 of secondary school were hell. But it was all under the guise of "we're just messing around". A teacher twanging my exposed bra strap (none uniform day) is not "messing around".

Boys pinning me down trying to rip open my shirt to see my breasts.

I fear for my daughter. I hope she takes after my father's family, flat chested.

We need to educate all our children, what is acceptable behaviour. And to come to us, as their parents should ANYTHING happen.

At this point I’m not enjoying motherhood

My 22 month old is horrendous at the moment🫣 biting, hitting, pushing, pulling and shoving not only adults but children he also wants what other children have and will just snatch it away from them.

We repeat ‘nice hands’ ‘be gentle’ ‘let’s share’ etc

But how do I make him understand what he’s doing isn’t very nice? At the end of the day I feel like I’ve just been saying his name all day and nothing else.

What can I do?

Car seat

No idea which car seat to get next. Please hit me with your recommendations, 1year+ (preferably rear facing or 360). Thank you 🫶🏻

Dummy

My baby has had a dummy since about 2 weeks old (now 5 months) and over the course of the last month we weaned her off it during the day only for naps and night (which was fine) and then 5 days took it completely away during the day.

The first day no dummy was fine, the second bit rougher. But now it feels impossible she just moans and cries all the time it takes ages for her to go down to sleep (she’s always been an amazing sleeper)

I thought it was meant to get better as time went on not worse. I’m at my wits end I dunno what to do.

Currently typing this as she screams uncontrollably in the car and I cry with her cos I can’t do anything.