Anyone else's self esteem taken a real beating?

I know I should be proud of what I've done and I'm so in love with my baby. I don't think I have PND and I feel so happy around my baby. I do however feel awful about myself and how I look. I don't want to wear anything that isn't super baggy and even the thought of sex makes me feel anxious. Does anyone else feel like this and any advice?

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Definitely feel like this

Definitely! I feel like an explosion in a sausage factory! Feel like I have fat rolls everywhere 😂🤦🏻‍♀️
I also had a c section so feeling a little beat over that
But our bodies have just grown a beautiful human being and it’ll take time to feel like ourselves again
I’m also on the journey to trying to love my body more… it is difficult and I feel like I look fat in everything! Lol
I try and do walking everyday to try lose a bit of the baby weight ☺️🌸xx

thank you that made me laugh 😂. I had a c section too and only now feel up for long walks but still feel really achy after a busy day! It's a long recovery and I need to be kinder to myself 🙏

Awww definitely hun!
Be kinder to yourself! You’ve gone through major surgery!
People forget that c section is classed as a serious/major surgery
So do take time to look after yourself ☺️🌸
There’s no rush hun xxx

I felt fine then went on the pill as midwife recommended and within a week was tearing myself apart about my looks, weight and just overall started to feel a bit meh. I stopped taking it a week after this and I feel fine again. I know I want to lose weight etc and I’m not where I want to be but I’ll do it in time and my body gave me my baby

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My boyfriend booked a trip for us to go to mexico for a week as my push present. I have severe anxiety leaving my 7 month old with my mom. I know she will be in good hands but she’s exclusively breast fed for the most part but accepts bottles just fine. i have all my pumping parts packed and will pump when baby normally eats but i don’t want baby to forget me or have latch issues when i return!! any mommas ever experience this?

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Sex post C section

Hi ladies I’m 4 weeks 5 days postpartum and I had a C section. I’m not bleeding properly anymore just some brownish discharge stuff that starts on and off. I’d like to do the deed with my partner; is it okay to do so or shall I wait the full 6 weeks. I feel up for it but also worried because the advice is 6-8 weeks.

Postpartum

I’m only 3 days postpartum (FTM) and already have extremely bad anxiety. I’m crying every night, as I think of another night of no sleep. My baby will not settle in his cot, he cries every moment we put him down unless in his chair rocker. So me and my partner are having to alternate after 3/4 hours of being awake with him downstairs. I’m trying everything to get him to settle. It’s a load of overwhelming stress. I’m 23, I was desperate for a baby and now I have one and feel completely useless. I miss it just being me and my partner.

I feel like just a milk cow

Hi I have a 16 day old via c section, I'm a FTM never having been around babies before as I am the youngest of my household and from a small family. My husband is fantastic with our little one. But ever since I've had the baby I just feel like the only thing I'm good for is producing milk. I feel disconnected from my husband like the only reason he's around is because am producing milk. We were having some issues before the baby and we're struggling it took a while to feel like he was onboard even though he said he was from the moment we found out. I dunno if I'm feeling like a spear part because I'm lacking confidence with baby or because I feel like he wouldn't mind being a single dad. Is this postpartum hormones or something else?