Feeling so stressed💔

I am 35 weeks on Saturday and i had my baby shower last week and half of my family didn’t turn up due to drama going on with other members of my family. I was absolutely heartbroken due to the fact that it was a day about me and baba.

Since the weekend I have been so upset and very stressed and now staying away from it all.
This is my first baby and I’m absolutely gutted that things have turned out this way.

I’m trying to stay calm and not be upset as this is meant to be the most amazing time of my life.

Sorry i just really had to rant about this to someone🥺💔

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Aww hun I hope your okay,, message me if you need to talk 🤗

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I had my baby shower back in August but had similar issues. I had multiple members of my dad's side of the family not come because my mum was coming (including my half brother, my only alive sibling). Although it upset me because its not about my mum or even them, it's about celebrating my first baby, I've took the mindset of F them basically. The people who didn't come also, not surprisingly, have barely bothered with me the entire pregnancy. My half brother still hasn't even congratulated me and continues to ignore my messages. My dad says it's nothing personal and it was my mum as to why he didn't come baby shower but who knows. But what I do know, those people when they want to meet baby and make a fuss when he's here can go swivel.

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Oh bless you that's really upsetting, I would feel the same. Have a little cry and get it all out your system then come back fighting. Your baby needs a calm and mentally strong mama to get through the birth. I hope you manage to sort things with your family but these next few weeks are all about you and baby xx

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thank you hun, i think i really needed to hear that. But your right it is most definitely about me and baby these next few weeks xx

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