No se si rendirme o continuar con la lactancia

Hola! Mi bebé tiene 9 días de nacido y desde entonces batallo mucho para poder lograr un buen agarre, diferentes motivos, por miedo a que me lastime porque no quiero sentir dolor, porque no logramos hacer un buen agarre y me frustra y me siento desconectada de él, la mayoría de mi embarazo me la viví deprimida con ayuda psicológica considerando acudir con un psiquiatra, ahora con el bebé me la paso llorando y con pensamientos negativos, no se de que forma me afecta en la lactancia, la mayoría de tomas de mi bebé son de leche materna, me la paso pegada al extractor y recurro a algunas tomas con formula, hay días donde pienso que sería mejor suspender la lactancia y darle pura formula pero también esta algo dentro de mi qué me dice que lo intente qué no me rinda, no se que hacer, no se a quien recurrir, ya fuimos con una asesora de lactancia pero para ser sincera me quede igual, el bebé termina llorando y yo igual, es mi segundo hijo y me siento como mamá primeriza, mi primer hijo tiene 5 años y alcanzamos una lactancia mixta hasta los 8 meses. 🥺😔 Algún consejo? Es la primera vez que ando por aquí.

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Primero te mando un abrazo, se ve que estas dando lo mejor de ti y que intentas que funcione y te entiendo hay días que la frustración nos gana.
Te recomiendo acercarte con alguna asesora de lactancia aqui conozco a algunas

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O en instagram @alehimes_lactancia

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gracias 🤍✨🥺

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Ánimo Lucía, si sientes que ya lo intentaste y de plano no, sigue extrayendo tu leche lo más que puedas, para que se alimente de ti, cuando lo hagas verlo te ayudará bastante, piensa en el milagro que es, en como son tan afortunados de tenerse el uno al otro, piensa en todo lo bueno de tu vida.
Yo pase poca más de 1 mes llorando cada que lo alimentaba, literal sangrando de mis pezones, mi solución fue usar pezoneras como hasta los 5 meses, porque aunque ya me habían sanado, el miedo de sentir ese dolor no se iba, créeme ni la cesárea fue tan dolorosa jaja; puedes intentarlo con eso, me salvo la lactancia literal ❤

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Este video salvo mi lactancia y gracias a él aprendí a tener un buen agarre, ojalá te sirva.

https://www.instagram.com/tv/CUbSYzhgBJp/?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==

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si tengo pezonera perooo también me lastima mucho

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muchas gracias, lo estoy viendo y me pondré a practicar 🤍✨ ojalá me ayude en algo 🥺

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Te abrazo fuerte linda porque te leo y pareciera que me estoy escuchando a mi misma hace casi 2 años, yo no tuve esa conexión con mi bebé, estuvo internado 1 semana en el hospital donde solo lo lacte 3 veces, tuve depresión severa en el embarazo y en el postparto pensamientos intrusivos, no logre el agarre, me dio mastitis, tuve lesiones en ambos pechos, me aferraba a lograr la lactancia a pesar del dolor hasta que el pediatra de mi bebé me dijo que tenia que corregir el agarre y cuando lo logre ufff fue una maravilla, a la semana mi bebé se puso mal por el tema de la APLV, me dicen que tenia que destetar en el hospital, mi médico me aconseja buscar un experto en APLV y así fue la gastro de mi bebé me ayudo mucho para continuar con la lactancia, llego el momento que ame esta conexión hermosa con mi bebé, para mi luchar por la lactancia fue lo mejor que pude hacer y sigo haciendo precisamente en este momento, lucho por prolongarla lo más que pueda a pesar de criticas y de más así que si sientes y deseas, hazlo

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Hola! Yo salí del hospital con grietas en ambos pechos. Lloraba solo de pensar que me lo tenía que enganchar otra vez y lloraba mientras lo amamantaba pensando en que en 5 minutos volvería a tener que ponerlo. Los médicos me insistían en que no podía dejar de engancharlo porque sería peor. Mi solución fue mi instinto. Sabía que era por el agarre, no tenía que doler y a mi me dolía mucho. Varias matronas me vieron y me decían que estaba bien. Me fui a casa con un extractor y fórmula. Pasaba todo el día sacándome leche y complementando con la fórmula. No dejé de buscar profesionales. A la semana, en una revisión del peque, la enfermera me preguntó y le conté toda la historia. Me llevó a un cuartito con sillones y me dijo que me ayudaría, yo llorando de pánico, pero la señora me puso el niño en la teta y no noté absolutamente ningún dolor. Y eso que no se me habían curado las grietas todavía. Fue maravilloso, esa señora me salvó la lactancia.

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A día de hoy estoy de nuevo embarazada (8 meses) y mi peque tiene 2 años y medio, ahora mismo lo tengo enganchado en la teta😅
Tienes que hacer lo que tu sientas, si crees que algo va mal y quieres continuar, busca profesionales hasta que te lo solucionen. También podría ser un problema de frenillo y por eso duele y no consigues el agarre correcto. Cuando mama no debería hacer ningún ruido tipo chasquido, solo lo escuchas tragar, y de verdad que no debería doler.

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If yall still giving your kids processed food, pls seek help

I understand not everybody can afford healthy ingredients all the time, but I’m seeing so many moms on social media giving they kids artificial cereals, coffee, frozen pancakes, velveetta Mac and cheese, hot Cheetos, kraft, the list goes on. I’m sorry but are yall not capable of cooking from scratch or ?? On top of that, if you still using canola and vegetable oil in 2026 you gotta stop. Am I the only one that notices this ???

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I've finally done it

I have finally done it. I have finally become the trope, the stereotype.

I have become bitter, resentful, and very overwhelmed and overloaded. I am very unhappy and hit burnout. And I snapped at my husband last night. I work full-time, and work has been very busy so im working late a lot. Im also in grad school. I also have a toddler that has become VERY clingy with me. My husband works shorter days but commutes, so he usually gets home after me by an hour or more. When he gets home, he usually heads to the restroom for at least 30 mins when he gets home. And now my toddler doesnt want anything to do with him. So im doing all the toddler duties until bed. I dont get 5 mins to myself. Not for almost 2 years. I finally hit my wall. I have also, somehow, become my MILs medical ride service and she somehow has an appt every week, it seems?! Shes not sick!! My husband was complaining that he needs to change routine to fit in a workout sometimes, and I lost it. I have been BEGGING for 5 mins to myself for months. I have been telling him how im not good, im going to burn out for months. And between his attitude and him complaining (which really got me b/c he blames me for not being able to work out?! Saying I need help when he gets home so he just cant workout now) I just lost it completely. I told him how unfair my life has become and I have the entire mental and emotional load and it is just not fair. He got mad at me and said "hes trying" when hes literally not trying at all. What do I do?? No one is taking the load from me! And im done and dont know what to do now.
I do not like this version of me.

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AITA?

This isn't a major issue, just wondering if I'm being a bit of an asshole.

• I do shift work, 5 out of 7 days, full-time.
• My partner works from home (mostly, sometimes he goes into the office) M-F, full-time.

Anyway, whenever I have a day off during the week he gets in his feelings when I make myself food (breakfast and lunch) but not him. His reason is he's working, I'm not - Which is fair but I've asked him how many times on a weekend has he gotten up, on his day off and made me breakfast and a lunch to take with me to work? You guessed it, 0.

So basically, just because I'm at home I don't think the responsibility to feed him should automatically fall on me when he manages to feed himself just fine while I'm at work.

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Big vent!

Hi mums.
I'm a first time mum in my 40s to twin boys.They are almost 5 months old and the biggest miracle in my life!
I am struggling!!!
I'm pretty sure I have ppa as my pregnancy was a very high risk and all I remember was crying from anxiety of all the ifs!Thankfully even born at 35 weeks and skinny,didn't need iu time.
My husband is not helping much because he's always too busy with work.He will "look" after them usually between 8pm-12am so I can have a chance to sleep.
He expects me to just sleep when I touch the pillow,even though I hear tje babies crying and him don't really bother because most of the times he'll be on his laptop working.
When I tell him I can't relax to fall asleep because I feel you r neglecting the babies,he says I'm the problem becauae I'm always there with them and don't give them alone time!!
I am angry!!I am furious!!
I can't keep.up.with housework becauae someone alwaya neess me and most of the times they nap I either cook and clean tje kitchen,do laundry or try and take a quick nap.
He doesn't help.around the house,becauae..guess what?always super busy.
I asked him nicely we could clean the house together every Saturday morning so it's easier and quicker for both of us and he said no,because he has a lot of work but probably wants to sleep until 12 or 2.
2 days ago a button of his coat ripped and I told him I'll sew it these days.
Earlier this morning while running late for his work,as always,he weara the coat and told him didn't get the chance to fix the button and sarcastically said..of.course u didn't!!!
I spent all night awake because one of the babies had congested nose and we've been trying to reduce one fees at night.
I wanted to punch him!!He left and I started crying...I cry so much,even at 5 months pp...
I can't go on like this anymoreeeee...
The crying in my ears is constant..my head is always numb..I've gained so much weight and can't find the strength to get back on track..
Even if I try to.find a therapist to just talk,is it gonna help?I really don't know😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

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Avoidant husband

I love my husband and he is a good man. We have some issues in our relationship however, as he has an avoidant attachment style (finds romance/intimacy/being emotional difficult). This comes from him having to be independent from a young age and having quite an abusive mother.
The issues in our relationship are mainly around a lack of sex and intimacy. I think the problem is that to feel turned on, I need to feel connected and wanted. My husband (being avoidant) will usually make jokes about being horny whereas I would want to have someone make me feel beautiful/sexy to get in the mood.
It sounds terrible but I've sometimes had dreams about exes that would make me feel this way, and the romance we had (eye contact, intensity, deep words). It makes me feel really guilty but I feel like i'm starved of that. My husband would like a lot more sex but I can't always force myself if I'm not feeling it.
We've spoken a bit about therapy but I know its often really expensive so we probably wouldn't be able to afford it. Do you have any suggestions please? I know that neither of us are wrong in what we want, just different but I'm scared about whether we can fix it or if we're doomed?

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Toddler snacks in the morning ?

Hey.

My 14m is clearly going through a growth spurt. He’s a fussy eater but recently started having two breakfasts with the childminder and that’s even after milk in the morning.

He wakes at 6am and we leave around 7:05am. Has 6oz when he wakes but then is seemly hungry looking for snacks before we leave. The only issue is, he’s a fussy eater and won’t sit and eat fruit etc so struggling to think what I can give him that’s suitable.

Any fussy eater suitable ideas of what I can make or get him to snack on whilst we finish getting ready to get out the door?

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