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Should I be worried my partner doesn't want to come near me anymore? We don't have sex or even cuddle much I get a kiss before and after work but that's about it. I'm 32 weeks pregnant and I understand it's not that easy anymore especially for me and I have lost my sex drive but he doesn't even try. He's always been 1 for sex or atleast something 😑 makes me feel really shitty 🙈

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Hmm I’m sorry but I would. I’ve been with my partner for 7 years and we have 2 beautiful daughters & another baby girl who’s due this December and he’s always had a high sex drive compare to me so if he was to not even come near me anymore, I would personally be worried. But everyone is different I guess 🤷🏽‍♀️ I get it that when you’re pregnant you’re not always in the mood to make love but you know 😅 Maybe try and ask him if everything is okay and see what he says? Good luck with everything ☺️

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@Nirya I seem to mention it and he makes a bit of effort but then it goes backwards again. I dno if I'm over thinking it all or what but when say something I get I'm tired I work hard, which I get but all day every day? I work and do everything thing in the house with 3 children and being pregnant but some attention would be nice 🤦‍♀️

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Maybe he’s worried now that you’re pregnant? Some men get weird about it, or worry they’re going to hurt the baby. Or maybe he doesn’t want you to feel pressured into having sex when he knows you’re tired and pregnant. The only way to know for sure is to ask him.

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Ye I guess so he was abit weird with my last pregnancy but it's more the affection side that bugs me. He used to feel our last one move all the time but he don't seem as bothered this time. He says it's not sunk in yet 🤦‍♀️ sometimes u just need a cuddle especially when ur upset but I dont get one 🤷‍♀️ x

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I’d speak to him, me and my partner are very open about these things and it will put your minds at ease and at least you’ll know why x

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We used to be every single day before this pregnancy . And he has said he can't have oral sex because she might see it which we all know isn't true. So it's gone down to about 3 times a week and I honesty feel I need an award for it. Although he still cuddles me every night and won't let go of my belly all night. So that part is still there !

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I feel the I'm tired I work hard excuse is a cop out would you? I will speak to him later thanks ladies x

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I would feel that for sure. What I do know is that our intuition is usually that nagging voice that when something is bugging you it won't stop until you sort it out.

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My heads telling me I'm being silly my gut is worried 😑 x

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Even if its nothing isn't it better to get it out of your head... at least so you can stop worrying. ❤️

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