Lunch weaning

Hey my LO is 9 months and still no teeth. He struggles with chewing toast and bread for lunch so something softer is needed for more finger foods that will fill him up. he gags and is sick alot when he tries to swallow but not chewed enough even though he is trying. Any ideas would be great! X

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My 9 month old has 1 tooth 2nd coming through and is the same as you LO with finger food I'm following for ideas x

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Id play it by baby if they dont have the teeth to chew your risking a serious chocking incident, maybe speak to a professional and ask them what to do

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Some babies can eat bread without teeth. We use our molars to chew which babies obviously don’t get for a while so they use their gums. Is it more that he struggles to bite pieces off? Is he moving his tongue enough to move the food around his mouth? Other lunch ideas could be boiled/scrambled egg, fritters, pin wheels or just picky bits like fruit, veggie sticks etc

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You can give beef jerky. I always have beef jerky on hand because even when sucking tgey get the protien from the meat. Or like a a thin sliced piece of stake

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My daughter is 9 months and eats bread and toast. No problem chewing it at all despite no teeth. She loves toast dipped in tea, which softens the bread up nicely. And she'll eat cheese and onion sandwiches, pasties ect. All you have to do is ensure the bites they take aren't to big to become a choking hazard

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He used to be great eating the bread and toast, better when I gave him small bits to eat. Something seems to have changed, even happened with a some mashed avo and a sweet potatoe tot which was super soft today so thought maybe some different alternatives lunches for abit. I thought it was teeth but seems some of your LOs also don't have them. Thanks for tips and advice all x

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No teeth isn't typically a problem with chewing etc lovely, their gums are designed to withstand it.

Has he had problems with latch, oral dysfunction or ties at all? This can massively affect adjusting to solids.

It could be a bit of a regression while he learns new skills and they can often go up and down with it all, just like we can xx

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@Rhiannon we had a huge problem with latching when he was born and after countless breastfeeding sessions I opted to express my milk and feed in a bottle. No ties was checked multiple times.

We are in another regression and also I can feel two teeth under his gums. I'll give it some time. I don't want to stop with the finger food completely but maybe I'll take a break for a week or so and just stick to mashed/puree. He is very happy to eat the puffs, crisps and snacks x

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Who checked for the ties lovely? Sadly a lot of GP's, HV's and most pediatricians don't actually know what they're looking for, especially if they're posterior. Was it a lactation consultant or dental experienced practitioner? Struggles latching are a really bug indicator usually.

Oh bless him, yeah often they can really affect weaning and eating in general. I'd keep offering and see how he goes, as long as he isn't getting upset or frustrated I'd keep up for the exploration and the chance he'll suck anything as he can still get the nutrients that way too 🥰 xx

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Midwife and health visitors. He sticks his tounge out alot so would that indicate he doesn't? It was just with midwifes, I had 4 and by the end they felt he just got used to the bottle for ease so I expressed for 10 weeks which was tough as my supply couldn't keep up when he needed more.

He literally continues to eat after vomiting 🤢 haha. I can see 2 white bits on him gums now and he's irritated by them. I will continue to persevere, I'm sure he will get there, you just constantly worry about everything haha.

Thanks lovely x

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