AM I SELFISH? I am 33 years old in December.. feel pressure to have another baby!

So I’m looking to start my business since I have dreamt about this since the past five years!

However I haven’t managed to do it coz of life getting in the way and the birth of my daughter!

My daughter is three now and I’m happy! However I’m looking to start my business now but I am also under pressure to have a baby!? What shall I do? I’m just really in a predicament since I don’t know if I want to wait another year l!? My daughter is alone and it would be nice for her to have a sibling!

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No not selfish at all! Get started on working on your business & aim for the stars.

Your child does not need a sibling, you, her family & friends is enough.

In a similar situation, just started my business, have a three year old daughter and we have been talking about having another next year… had to stop my business after my daughter turned 1 because it was too difficult being full time mom as well as running a business… finally started it up again but feeling the pressure for baby no.2! I’m only 27 but all the women in my family have ended up with hysterectomies by the age of 30 so it feels like now or never!

Not selfish at all, do what you feel is right and what you think will work better for your family!

Thank you for your comment

thanks you are right actually :)

I recently went for a scan to find out if my ovaries are okay.. and if there’s any signs of cysts etc

Since this is something that exists in my family? Maybe do some checks before you decide what you want that way you can plan and see what your options are.. ie best to get pregnant now or after at least a year or so ? Xx wish you the best x

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