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Anyone else having a hard time because their mothers are insistent to be at the birth?

I really want it to be just me and my husband but my mum is pretty adamant she needs to be there.

We have told her so many times but she is in some sort of denial.
It's causing alot of friction and I am certainly very tense..I am now over due and I think if I feel like this I won't go into natural labour.

When I had my first child I was 20 years old, I did need my mum there! My second I was 23 years old I did need my mum there. But now I am 37 I've been with my husband for 19 years he is 39 and we are adults!! We just want the experience for us. But she is t respecting it.

Anyone else have this kind of pressure on them?!😞

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Just don't tell her when your in labour. Problem solved xx

That is the plan. However I swear she will find out and turn up, make a scene etc. After we will get a dog's life!
She's very controlling, very dramatic too. X

The stress she is causing you really isn't fair, hugs. Don't tell her when you are in labour, maybe go as far as not to tell anyone (or limit) family/friends wise so it doesn't end up going back to her so she can't show up. As well as this, tell the labour ward that you do not want anyone present at the birth of your child other than the necessary staff, obviously yourself and your husband. They then should not let anyone onto the ward, let alone the room you are in, that you do not want there

Thank you ladies, I mean I feel absolutely terrible and I don't want to hurt my Mums feelings but I really know what I want this time.
Good advice about telling the midwives that's actually a wise move. Xxx

It's funny how some people (even if they think they mean well) just act super selfish. As if she doesn't care about what YOU want

I am in a really similar position, my mum just assumed she would be in the delivery room and I just had to tell her no. The first time I just said no and didn’t give her a reason then it continued. It made me feel really uncomfortable tbh. She then said it doesn’t matter as she’ll just wait outside/in the car park and again I said no.

It’s hard to be vague as I’ve already told her my induction date but my plan is to just not say I’m in labour at all.

The stress just isn’t worth it x

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