Is this right ?

My partner left me a few months ago we decided we would go on a three month break and then get back together once the break had finished. It’s passed the 3 month mark and I ask him if he was coming back, but he has a new job closer to his mums house (where is currently staying) and told me it’s way more convenient for him to just live there. So i asked him is it a temporary measure but he couldn’t give me an answer only that he needs time to do what is most convenient for him right now but we should still work on us. He says he has every intention of being with me in future. I don’t know what it means when he says this . To give context his mum cooks n cleans for him, he pays no rent and he also works with his best friend who lives 2 minutes from his mums home and spends endless time with him. He’s friend is also a piece of shit and complete womaniser. It seems like he has it made over at his mums maybe he can’t see a reason to come back. He also hardly sees me in the weekdays. He is either too tired or busy playing PlayStation. We have gone from living with each other seeing each other everyday to seeing each other only at weekends. This isn’t first time we have had a break but usually he is way more attentive and makes the effort to still be around as much as possible. Now it’s like he can’t be bothered. He also promised although he wasn’t living with me he’d still help with bills instead he pays for nothing not even child maintenance. He knows I have huge bills, plus childcare and never offers to help with any of it. Instead when I say something about it he shouts at me for complaining and says that’s the reason he left because i complain to much. I can’t work out if I have the right to feel upset or, should I hang on hopefully as he says we’ll work it out and be with each other on the future. Or if he’s not taking me serious now what’s to say he will on the future I can’t decide. Sorry so long had to get it off my chest..

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Is the child his?

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It's very very hard but id move on just like he moved on ! Girl it is all about you and your child!!! Men are optional!! You're a strong woman just like the rest! And in the end you need to do what's best for you and your child and waiting around for the man that basically gave up on you and the life you guys created isn't it! Become a boss babe! Show him what he missed out on! He'll either come crawling back begging or not care because he already didn't.. I'm so sorry this is happening to you babe❤️ no matter what happens always remember you're strong and you've got this!

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Yup I agree with @Elizabeth Mama. Women have been going on for generations without a man by their side. At this point, focus on You and Yours. Don't pour any more energy into it.

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yes it’s his child

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There’s no point in this relationship then. It’s not even a relationship. I don’t think breaks are good at all. And the fact you have needed more than one? Also he doesn’t support, you don’t see him and he’s comfortable being away from you! Just leave. You’re doing it alone anyway.

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right, pack his shit if any left behind and make sure he starts paying child support. The man has told you he doesn’t need you or his child… it’s his own ass he is more focused on. Don’t let the man tell you twice. Once your heartache wears off you will be glad you got rid of this man…

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Id be more concered of him not trying to see his child! He is definetly playing you and you deserve so much better . Tell him to do one

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