Friend not bothering with my children

Sometimes this is what happens when women get new partners I had a friend just like this who started acting weird when she got a new boyfriend I completely cut her off cause when shit hits the fan it’s me who’s gonna have to pick up the pieces I wouldn’t even bother if she’s blown up on you one thing I will say is as we get older we grow out of people nothing is for us and sticks around for ever just learn to move on ❤️

Blowing up out of nowhere indicates that there perhaps more going on.
Maybe she’s blown up because she feels guilty that she’s got wrapped up in her boyfriend and neglected other areas of her life, such as not seeing u and ur kids? If she’s been a good friend prior to this, I’d maybe let the dust settle and then try and have a conversation with her and see what’s going on, not a blaming conversation, just an acknowledgment that ur kids miss her and how can u stop this happening again. It could be that she’s got caught up and genuinely hasn’t realised/thought of the impact on ur kids until confronted (hence why she’s then blown up). Ppl who don’t have kids sometimes just don’t think.
If not or if she turns out to not be bothered, don’t invest ur energy in trying to salvage the relationship. If someone is going to build a bond with ur kids and have no conscience flitting in and out, don’t give them that power.

I mean you’re putting a lot on your friend. Take your children to see her if you’re that concerned. Sounds like she’s just enjoying her own life and tbh people have enough shit to keep on top of at the moment. Don’t put so much pressure on someone else to be in your children’s lives but you aren’t putting that effort in yourself.

I always ask her to meet up and message to check up on her. She just either doesn’t reply or says she’s busy which is fair enough. She still lives with her parents hence the asking to meet up as I can’t take my children to a elderly couples home it’s not fair on them so we’ve always met up round her house or mine so it suits whichever is busiest that day. I’ve always kept the effort up on my side but she doesn’t do the same so there’s not much i can do if she’s not going to reply to me etc