MIL comments about weight

My MIL means well and is such a lovely person, but she has quite a lot of strong views about weight and is pretty controlling/obsessive when it comes to her own and her husband’s weight.
My 9 week old is EBF and is in the 95th/98th centiles for height and weight. I’m super proud of how well she’s doing and absolutely adore her little thigh rolls, her big tummy and the way her chunky wrists look. My MIL seems to be stuck between trying to be supportive (sending messages saying how well nourished she is by the breast milk) and being quite obsessive about her losing weight (asking about when the next weigh in is, whether we think her weight gain is slowing down, when breastfed babies drop feeds etc.) Her husband is also making comments about her fat belly and her big cheeks.
The comments and questions are really getting to me and I feel like I’m taking on their worries about her weight as an insult to me (I’m far bigger than any of them and I feel like they’re making some judgements of me when they say things.
Am I being over sensitive to these comments? Any advice on how to cope better with it all?

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If I were you I’d nip the comments about her weight straight away, if they’re already doing it now what will they be like when she’s older. Need to set children up with a positive view on their bodies and all those types of comments will do is put you down and put your baby down in the long run. You’re not over sensitive at all, if I were you I’d ask politely once or twice and if they don’t change their ways I’d say sorry but until you understand the damage you’re doing then you won’t see the baby
Hope this helps x

Yes totally agree with Bliss
Reassure them that health visitors not concerned by weight and that all babies have chubby cheeks, thighs and tummy's no matter what weight centile they are on and it's not a sign of a weight problem

Agreed. Just think of a bland sentence like "she's growing appropriately " and repeat ad nauseum. Ask them bot to make any further comments about her weight. People from their generation odldten have very unhealthy ideas about weight anyway.

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