Sex after birth

Anyone done this yet and if so, did it hurt? I gave birth over 6 weeks ago, vaginally, with second degree tears, bruising and swelling. I feel a bit sore down there still and I have a fear that I will rip open or start bleeding and due to things that happened at birth the thought of seeing blood frightens me. Could this happen or are my fears irrational? I am also scared of hurting.
Any tips to make things easier and more enjoyable the first few times after birth before we try?

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If you’re still sore down there then I’d definitely wait. I did it just before 6 weeks pp and it was fine for me, just slightly uncomfortable at the start but I didn’t tear so I wasn’t sore at all the start with. If you’re body isn’t completely healed then it could cause some damage and maybe slight bleeding, definitely not ripping open though x

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We started at 4 weeks pp but I had a C section. However it did hurt the first 2 times so your partner needs to go slow and be patient

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I’m 9 weeks postpartum, forceps & episiotomy. I saw the doctor last week and was told my internal scar has healed really well - my external scar still feels tight and a bit raw. Have tried a couple of times over the last 2 weeks but didn’t manage - still definitely not ready!

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I had an emergency c section and I was sworn to celibacy cause I was traumatised from the birth and elements of my pregnancy. I had sex about 4.5 ish weeks postpartum and it hurt like crazy. Tried again at about 6.5 weeks and it’s was a bit easier but still hurt. Just take it slow because trust me if you want it enjoy it don’t think that it will be the same as before

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same birth experience... didn't have a check but seems ok. Definitely had to adopt a different position and was almost like I'd never had sex B4... but just tried to relax n go slow. Was ok in the end 🤣😂

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I had sex recently around 8 weeks post partum with 2nd degree tears, I didn’t find it sore at all. Was a lot worse with my daughter following an episiotomy! Just relax and try not to worry as being tense won’t help, just take it easy x

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I had a emergency C section under general and I waited until 6 weeks and was cleared by the drs.
It’s mainly for the fact of infection aswell, I’m sorry but no sex is worth having any more lady issues especially after birth!

You’ll know when your ready both mentally and physically, so what’s the pressure!

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