Boyfriend going out a lot
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Oh nah I’d leave. He’s showing you zero respect, clearly doesn’t care about your feelings or your child. And like poster above said, if Im taking care of my kid by myself then I might as well BE BY MYSELF. If you leave, you’re not throwing away your relationship over a night a week. Youre disposing of useless, disrespectful weight. Him being friendly with other women and coming home super late at night is NOT being a respectful partner.
How old is he?
He sounds like a child! He has zero respect for you. Surely he should want to spend time with you and his baby on the weekends? The nights out should be a rarity and he should be spending his time with his family. He honestly sounds like an immature teen who values getting drunk with his friends more than his baby and his partner.
You’ve said you don’t want to throw your relationship away over a night or just a weekend, It’s not just one night out over a weekend it’s every weekend a night out where he gets so drinks so much he can’t function the next day? Also not helping you parent or letting you have time to yourself you have to find childcare if you want to go out even though you have a partner? Part of having a child means your life changes you can’t do what you want when you want for example we used to go out for food every week we can’t do that now it’s once a blue moon and the cinema or theatre is once a blue moon but we’re fine with that and try to make memories as a family together.
I really feel for you that’s really tough 😕 only my opinion/suggestion but would you feel comfortable or would it be an option to take your baby and spend a full weekend at your parents? Leave him to it and let him deal with his hangover alone and the consequences of your parents awareness etc maybe it would shake him up a little or give him some time to think about his priorities in a new light.
You wouldn't be throwing a relationship away over a night out..... you're leaving a bad relationship with a man that prioritises drinking with friends over his partner and child, a man who ignores his responsibilities, disrespects you and doesn't care for his child at all. What do you even get from this relationship.
Hun you said you have a good relationship normally… how? If he doesn’t help with the baby, he’s always out partying when you have a baby at home plus he flirts with girls when he goes out. I think you aren’t realising he isn’t respecting you. When you respect your woman, you help out, you spend quality time with her and make her feel like a priority.
Agree with all the comments above. I'd also add that I wouldn't trust him as far as I can throw him personally, if he is too friendly with other women I'd have thought the solution is him going out less, not him going out separately and coming home in the early hours of the morning. Just seems really suss to me.
I was in the same situation and unfortunately they get to comfortable but when the tables are turned they can't handle it. Needless to say I just found out my babydaddy been talking to somebody since like the last 2 months of my pregnancy. We didn't get back together till I was due. And he decided to pull his bullshit m disappear for 3 days come to find out he was with his biitch. Not saying your man is cheating but don't let him take advantage of you. Your feelings matter and if he can't reason with you then BYE!!!!
Obviously I'm not in your situation so idk what you're going through, but I wouldn't put up with that. There is no reason to be going out once a night EVERY weekend when you have a baby. My husband and I drink together on the weekends at home once our son goes to bed. Prevents us from arguing about who is going out and who is watching the baby. I also would not be with someone that isn't helping out taking care of the baby. If I am going to be taking care of the baby by myself then I would be by myself.