Resenting my husband for forgetting me

That's really tough. I'd walk in front of a train for my kids, but I'd do it for my husband also. The whole family comes first, its not just him and daughter. I felt the same way after my baby, (my second his first) he even just grabbed the baby and went to lay in living room with baby after I almost had him back asleep, and we could of all been in the room still 🙄
I didn't feel like I had time to slow down because no loads were taken of my back, I was still sweeping and going up and down stairs, lifting heavy boxes downstairs to make room, and he'd only tell me to slow down when people were around. I've had to go to therapy and learn I can't control what others do, only how I proceed with what is happening in the best way for myself, therapy is a great tool. It's not the Cliche everyone makes out to be and you learn how to break down the problem and go about it in the best way, because it sounds like both of you mean well to each other

My S/o was the same way. Even the walking fast with the carrier and leaving me behind. Luckily I got some pics of the three of us bcos someone else was taking them. But everything was about baby boy which is 100% okay, I just felt really left out. I was hurting physically and mentally and it felt like I had no one. It took a few weeks but eventually I understood he was just a proud dad and it wasn't his fault I felt that way. I think some men can't comprehend the pain we go through. And because I felt like I couldn't rely on him, I pushed through the physical pain and was doing everything by day 3. Which was not good for my body or my mental health. I don't think he did any of it on purpose. I just think he didn't realize how his actions affected me.

@Trish i now wish I'd had someone to take pics of us, but we were just the 2 (well 3) of us as this is a new country for us. Thank you for sharing your story because it makes me feel less alone, and I'm sorry we had to experience it this way. It is lonely.

@Kota grabbing the baby is happening all the time, I even accused him (in a fit of what I can only blame on hormonal rage) of trying to hog the baby. In a weird way, it's a reminder that no matter what, we still have to be independant and not rely on someone, even a spouse, too much. This experience has highlighted that I need to go back into the workforce ASAP and regain my independance because you just never know. Thank you for sharing 💓