Overwhelmed

My LG turned 1 last week and I recently lost baby number 2. I feel so over whelmed and a like a bad mum most days. I feel guilty for putting her in her chair when I have things to do as she isn't quite walking yet. I feel guilty she doesn't have a sibling as she loves other kids (she's the only baby in the family). I know she should be sleeping in her own room but i dont feel ready yet. I feel like I'm getting everything wrong.

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Be kind to yourself ❤️ you’re not a bad mum, you’re not getting anything wrong, you’re doing what you need to do to get through the day ❤️

Our 1 year old is with us as well as in her cot it will work out when you're both ready, you're little one will sense you're pain All babies go at different paces you're doing you're best x

You're doing great! Forget all "should's". E.g. my girl is almost 13 months, sleep half night in her cot in my room, half with me. Not planning to change that for however long it takes for us. Love her sleeping with me too much! ❤️

I'm 100% sure that the fact you are feeling guilty over the tiniest things we all do means you're a great mum! All they need is to know they're loved, I bet your LG feels that every minute of the day!!

Sorry for your loss. It’s so easy to feel guilt for a lot of things but you’re doing the best you can. Our little boy sleeps in our room & he’s one. We aren’t too worried about it.

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