Is it wrong to not want my partner to leave me now I’m 36 years weeks pregnant. I’ve said in this last month I don’t want him going anywhere that’s not local without me as I get anxious that I may begin labour and he’s not here. Plus I struggle to do much by myself now. I feel he’s really resenting me for this and thinks I’m trying to control him whereas I don’t understand why this just isn’t a given. Surely he should wanna stay close by and make sure he’s here for me and the baby. I don’t really have anyone else near us to lean on either as we moved away from home and family last year.
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How you're feeling is understandable, baby can come anytime now, and if you do go into labour and he's not there, if he misses the birth, he will kick himself for it. Plus, it's not fair for you to be on your own when you have no one else to support you with moving away from everyone. Has he made any suggestion that he resents you for it?
Not at all and we moved here because he has ties here so it favours him more so than me. I just think he feels like he’s being controlled when I feel I shouldn’t even have to ask this of him and just wish he wanted to stay close incase. It’s not even just about potentially missing the birth but also the distress it could put me and baby in worrying whether he will make it.

I completely understand. Maybe try and express how you feel and reassure him that you're not trying to be controlling, just worried in case something happens and he isn't nearby to be there.
I’ve really tried I communicate with him openly all the time but just get nothing back no matter how much I ask him to be open with me too he just says he has nothing to say and I can just feel the resentment. It’s really scaring me as I don’t want to go into motherhood feeling like this. I’m already worried about PND and don’t want to worry about our relationship too.

I'm really sorry you're feeling like this. Men generally suppress their emotions, which at times like this aren't very helpful. Have you spoken to your midwife about how you're feeling? They should put something in place to help and support you in case of PND. Feel free to private message me if you want to.