Baby first aid for grandparents

So my inlaws are due to look after our baby when I go back to work, they haven't got any other grandchildren for quite a few reasons I'm really anxious. I would feel the same way if my mum looked after our daughter.

I suggested to my partner that the grandparents go on a child first aid course, mainly as they will be feeding her and I want them to know the difference between choking and gagging (his mum has seen her gag before and thought she was choking, and said she isn't ready for solids 😬 he said that we should trust our parents and that they have looked after children before (30 years ago).

My arguement is that nursery staff refresh their first aid knowledge every year and it's not because anyone thinks they are unsafe.. but it's mandatory. I have to do it every year as part of my job, and I'm thankful because I need that refresher. Luckily I haven't had to put anything I've learnt into practice.

I'm so fed up of people (him and his parents) thinking I'm being unreasonable for really going into detail about what to do with her and suggesting things that are going to put my mind at ease when they look after her.

They want her going to theirs and I have suggested it's better for them to come to ours as we have bigger space, a high hair, a cot… all the things they don't have. They want to come to ours to collect her and take her to theirs, and they don't even have a car seat so we have to hope they remember how to install ours and strap her in safely. Not to mention when I said what time she would need to get to us for in the morning so we can both get to work, she was shocked at how early it was.

Is it really unreasonable for me to suggest they go on a first aid course? I'm just starting to get so anxious about her going to theirs.

in our community

Ughhh

I am so overwhelmed!! My baby isn’t sleeping and I’ve got a raging headache and all this legal stuff is making me feel irritated and I just want to cry.
I absolutely hate the idea of letting him just cry while I take 5 seconds

I really hate to come out here and tell my business about what’s going on with my life in my kids, but I had no choice

I just came back from a parent teachers conference meeting and they telling me that my second daughter, who just turned eight about a week ago that she barely know how to read and she has speech problems… I already feel like shit because it’s not that I’m doing my job. It’s because I worked a lot, and and every time, me and my first oldest daughter, trying to teach you how to read, she gets insecure and thinking that we making fun of her, but we’re not!! I felt like a shitty mother I don’t know what to do.

First Day/Night Out without Baby

So I’m due to go on a hen party next weekend just for the afternoon/night and I’m soo nervous to leave baby girl. She will be with her dad (my husband) and I know he’s more than capable but I’m so nervous to leave her. He struggles sometimes with bed time as baby girl really likes to fight her sleep so I end up doing bedtime 9 times out of 10. And I’m worried he will just let her “cry it out” for a while before he goes to pick her up and settle her. I really want to go out and have a good time. But I’m just nervous about going out anyway in general because I’m still not 100% loving my new mum body. But mostly I’m nervous about leaving baby as it will be the longest we’ve been apart 🙈

Nursery

What's people's thoughts on nursery? Is it better to choose somewhere closer to where you live or better to choose somewhere in the middle for different people that may be picking baby up? We've just started looking and just don't know which is better

My mil is the reason I see my husband as less of a man

LA little back story, my mil got a new bf last year and a month into dating they insisted he be called grandpa. Fast forward to a few months ago mother-in-law and her boyfriend‘s behavior has turned nasty after father-in-law has come back into the picture. After mother-in-law and her boyfriend’s behavior at family events, such as my son’s baptism, my Christmas party and my father’s Christmas party, I told my husband to tell his mom that her boyfriend is no longer to be called Grandpa. fast-forward three months and he still hasn’t told her because he doesn’t want to upset her feelings. Now her bf wants to bring his son over to my house to meet my kids or his “grandkids” and they didn’t ask my opinion. I told my husband how I feel about it and he’s not telling her no because he doesn’t want to upset her. I’m starting to see my husband as less of a man because of his mom and putter her above me.

Am I over reacting? What should I do?

Correcting eating with hands?

My 1yo eats with utensils perfectly fine, my 3yo is capable of doing it too but doesn't like to and prefers to use her hands. I don't know how to correct this at home without it sounding lowkey like nonsense. We have finger foods, other cultures eat "messy" foods with their hands, we teach to eat until your tummy feels comfortable so idk how to explain that even tho eating with her hands is the most comfortable that she isn't supposed to?? Because even as an adult I don't see a problem with it unless it'd be disrespectful to the chef/host 😅 Do I just say we need to practice at home just in case a future chef/host would be offended by it? 😭