Advice please

I’m 41 weeks pregnant and expecting baby any day now. I’ve been living with my partner and his mum for the last 4 weeks because my partner doesn’t want to rent as I’ve suggested and we aren’t quite ready to find a house yet (in the next year yes).

My partner has been very stressed the last few days and when I questioned why he told me he’s walked in on his mum crying multiple times and believes she is worried about losing him. I know she has said things but he doesn’t want to hurt me so he won’t give specifics. She’s a single mum and I actually understand and appreciate why this is a difficult time.

He believes she’s struggling to let go and feels uncomfortable with another woman (me) being in the house and with her son.

I feel between a rock and a hard place because little does she know I saw this coming and have begged my partner to rent with me so we can have our own space and there isn’t a power dynamic between his mum (the homeowner) and me (the matriarch of what will be my new family) under one roof. He is the one out of us both that wanted to stay home.

So if I move out, her son can’t be as involved with our baby and I won’t have a proper relationship with my partner.

I’m extremely respectful to her and I always involve her as soon to be grandma and praise her for doing a great job raising my partner. We never show PDA around her and I let her take care of him as a parent does and make a point not to take over.

How do I approach this?

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Aww are you quite a young couple? I guess it will be hard but unfortunately she will have to loosen the strings. He's going to be a dad and should be allowed to lead his own private life.

Maybe reassure her and say he would still visit if you moved out. But I personally think it's healthy for an adult child to move out and start their own life/family.. It's part of life.

Yeah I guess it’s just hard when he acts as the mediator between us both as it’s an awkward situation to be in. I’m 23 and he’s 31 so he’s definitely old enough to be flying the nest now but it’s just been them for a while now (I’ve had my own place for the last 5 years) so I know it must be hard for her 🫶

I think you should move out and just hope he follows. It’s not going to get any better with her and having a kid ALWAYS complicated things. Obviously, since you’re 41 weeks pregnant you can’t move out now…but maybe make a plan to move out 3 months from now and start looking.

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