Health visitor??

So I've received a letter to say a health visitor wants to come and see me at home just to see how I'm getting on with my pregnancy, mental health and support system etc etc. I always thought health visitors come after bubba is born. Anyone else had or is having a HV come over prior to little one being born???

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I’ve had this too and asked my midwife about it and said that I can just not bother with it for now cause I’ll see them after birth anyways 😛

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You don’t personally need to see a health visitor if you don’t want to but it’s always been after I think

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Yes this is normal. They come for a chat beforehand about your wellbeing and any questions. I found it really helpful as she had a lot more time than the midwife!

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I’ve had one too. But the letter says they’ll phone rather than come to the house due to coronavirus x

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With my first two children the health visitor didn’t come until after baby and I where discharged.

When I had my 11 month old son she did a telephone call instead as she had injured herself and couldn’t walk.

I’m currently 31+5 and my H/V did her pre home visit when she came to do my sons 12 month assessment. It’s only come out in the last few years but just mainly to discuss how you are, baby’s sleeping arrangements etc x

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I work with the health visitors, we do an antenatal visit to introduce to us and the service we provide so it's not just us turning up when the midwife has finished.

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I had the health visitor round recently too. She said some like to come and visit to meet you first, others don’t! Depends on the health visitor x

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I got this letter yesterday too! I thought it was strange but turns out they like to do this before bubba is born too 🤷‍♀️

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Thank you ladies for getting back to me...I just thought it was strange that's all. I will update you lovely ladies after my visit on Tuesday, on how it went x

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Yeah we had ours come this Friday gone and I’m currently 30 weeks. She was lovely and just went through details about myself and my wife, our family situation and discussed feeding, safe sleeping, vaccines etc.

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Yes it's normal but I had a video call instead . X

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I had one call me and she's coming out on Tuesday. In the states this does not happen so it's all new to me also. No one comes to check on you after a baby unless you had a homebirth with midwives . So I am kind of nervous to have someone in my home but also super grateful for the service as well.

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I’m a bit worried about ours. We have nothing prepped yet and a super noisy dachshund 🤦🏽‍♀️

No letter yet though

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You can say no 🤷🏻‍♀️

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I just got a letter too. I noticed the appointment is for about 2 hours. I guess I can just ask a lot of questions then as I am a first-time mum.

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same, mine is for 2 hours

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@Lars jeez it shouldn't be that long, barely last an hour normally just asking about your worries, answering questions etc

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I had my HV pre baby appointment a couple of a weeks ago but I had to go in and see them. Lasted about an hour. Spoke about any worries and went through the red book and all the advice websites etc

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I also have one at the end of October, I have prepared lots of questions.😁

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I had this but mine said I that they weren’t able to organise a date so it’ll be when the baby has arrived but I also was confused 😕

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