When should I tell them?

I applied for a temporary fixed term job at a supermarket as a festive staff over the Christmas period. I have an interview coming up next week with a good chance of getting the job if all goes well. I’m hoping to do 12 hours a week.

I’m 18 weeks pregnant and I know legally I don’t have to tell an employer until I’m 25 weeks, but with it being a new job, do I tell them I’m pregnant at interview or after I get the job (if I get the job) I don’t want to tank my chances of getting this job before I’ve even started as we need the money to cover my husbands unpaid time off work after the birth (he currently works agency so isn’t paid for any time off taken)

If anyone can advise here that would be great

Side-note, I’m not really showing yet so thats not a problem for me

Thank you 🙏🏽

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You be 30weeks by time Christmas come so think he hard to hide hun and if stacking shelves safer to tell them as some expect you load up and shelf up so you can't lift a crazy weight

Tell them after got the job in the bag i would because anything like agancy i feel like not getting work because im pregnant

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I think I’d be starting November time but I’m not sure. I’d rather not work but I know it’ll make it easier for us having some backup money for his unpaid leave when baby is here. I’m worried I’ll be overtired and not want to do it, but I’ll see if I even get the job first I guess

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I would personally would tell just incase you need to go to hospital or not feeling well etc, they can still give you job at tills as you can’t use ladder or lift heavy.

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tell them at interview or after I’ve secured the job though? I know I have to tell them it’s just a matter of when

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I wouldn't say at interview stage. All these companies always look to protect their own interests because they can and we should all do the same and look out for our own families. Even if you get the job and only get to work for a little bit it'll bring some income in which I'm sure would make a difference. And at that time there is a lot of extra staff so it should be fairly easy for a large supermarket (if it is a large chain) to accommodate for your needs.

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After you got a job, read your new contract.

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that’s what I was worried about, as I know as awful as it is being pregnant will set me back from others and I’d be less likely to be employed even though it’s only a seasonal Christmas job and it’d be done with well before I’m due

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it will, my goal is to earn enough to cover the income my husband will loose in the 2 weeks that he’ll take off after the birth, just to take the pressure off. That’s why I don’t want to yank my chances before I’ve even got my foot in the door.

It is a large chain yes

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