Friends

I know the feeling. The last time I saw my friend they said “if I ever need someone, give them a message” that was 17 weeks ago I messaged and they haven’t even opened it, yet they view my Snapchat stories 🫠. I wish I had advice, but I’m in the exact same situation:(

yes!!! I had the exact same response one day!! She said if I ever needed her I could always talk to her…. So I started talking and after my long message she says “I’m sorry but I’m feeling really down I’m going to go to bed” I couldn’t believe it.

Honestly, I just gave up with them all. Over the past 13 months, two of my friends have popped over to mine, once. Pregnancy and having babies is so lonely, especially with fake friends. I saw them at a shopping centre the other day when I was out with my mum (basically my only friend😅) and they looked right through us and didn’t say a word 🫠

just shows you doesn’t it! It gets you so annoyed! But I can’t ignore mine. I work with her on the same department. My lo is 3 months old and I didn’t get one single visit 😂 sometimes you have to laugh

There are some people that are, as I like to call them, "me, myself and I" and there's no way to change them. You either follow them or they won't follow you. I met a lot of people like that in the past and I learnt to play the game. It doesn't mean that they don't like you, they want to hurt you or that you are a burden to them, they just don't know how to behave in any other way. If the balance of your relationship is positive, you'll have to learn how to deal with them. If the balance is negative, then take this as an opportunity to get distance.
The fact that you work with her doesn't mean that you need to be friends, just be polite and friendly at work. I also thought I had friends at work, and none one of them even asked me how I'm doing since I went on mat leave. At least now I know their true colors, and I'll behave accordingly

thank you so much for that! I’ve tried to tell her how I’ve felt in certain situations before. And she takes it to heart. She won’t talk to me at work or anything so it makes my job hard. As it’s all about communicating sometimes. At work it ends up with our manger having to talk to us as I end up getting frustrated with it. It does honestly feel so childish at times. I try and not let it get to me but it sometimes can’t be helped

Bluntness - she isn’t a friend. She is only there for her. Unfortunately I’ve found when you have a baby you see who you true friends are, even ones who you might not have seen for a while will surprise you. You’ll have the ones I like to call ‘photo friends’ who where there at the start for a cuddle and photo with a new born baby and now don’t hear anything from. Anyone who has a negative impact on your life, bye. It’s just not worth it for your own mental health. I’ve deleted that many people from work off social media since having my baby as I don’t want them to see him. We are colleagues, not friends. If I wouldn’t meet up with you out of work, why would I want you to see my life out of work? They just aren’t worth it. X

this has come across my mind and I’ve even said to her before I feel like it’s toxic being her friend.. I didn’t speak to her for ages! But it comes to the point where I go to work. She doesn’t communicate with me, she doesn’t acknowledge me and it makes everything so difficult! Her mum is my boss. So it makes everything even more awkward. I don’t have many friends as it is, so I’ve tried so so hard to keep this one going! But the reason I don’t have many friends is because i feel like alot of people are 2 faced. I told her that I lost a lot of blood etc in my surgery and all she could talk about is how much it pain she’s in with her leg. sorry for the rant. I know I need to let her go and I don’t go back to work till March so I guess it’s something that needs to be done sooner rather than later. I just don’t want her mum to hate me and start treating me differently at work