Relationship suffering - tips

How do you prioritise your relationship when you’re the default parent and sleep deprived and anxious?

We aren’t really having sex at all I’ve found it too painful and also … when! I am EBF so hoping libido comes back after starting combi feeds. Husband says he feels unloved.

He says I haven’t tried with him at all and me and him are separate to us and our LG but honestly I have no capacity and I feel he does very little coparenting so I am hurt that it all falls on me then he wants me to be more present for him too.

Feel awful that our relationship is so on the rocks and want to fix it but honestly just getting through the day with my mental health in tact is hard enough and with a sleep regression happening I go to bed pretty much after dinner so we just don’t really see each other.

Does anyone have any tips for keeping the romance alive while prioritising naps and being EBF?? (Aka no one else can feed baby yet so can’t give to family member to go on day date as she feeds every hour or so.)

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yes all of this would be ideal as words and affection my love language. His not at all. He only says I love you rarely or when drunk - since always though. His thing is acts of service so he doesn’t expect or give a thank you. He makes a nice dinner often and does all the supermarket shops and most dinners when he’s on top of things. But yes I do sometimes feel like a housewife and all my greatest fears have been realised - his life remains mostly unchanged. I don’t know that he fully appreciates this though he says he does..

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I could have written this post myself. It exactly sums up my feelings at the moment! No tips but just wanted to say I absolutely feel you and I hope things get better for us! X

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Sorry for stating the obvious, but can you not pump?

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baby doesn’t really take a bottle she refused for 2 months then just started again but won’t take much at a time

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Sippy cup?

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we’ve been trying to get her to drink from it since sept 😅

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