Ferber method

Has anyone tried it? We are on day two. Last night it took him half an hour and then woke up twice in the night, both times took 45mins of crying before he settled. Did not work at all for his naps today. Wondering how you found it if you’ve used it?

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So the NHS advises against this method; I’d recommend reading the BASIS baby sleep advice, it’s by sleep experts (the same ones who advise the lullaby trust) and they indicate that it could have some negative side effects.

We tried and after half an hour my little one had caused herself to throw up from screaming so it was a firm no for us. I know for some people it’s effective but It definitely depends on the temperament of the baby xx

Same as Emma for night times (we did it at 7 months) still c9ntact napped until 8 months when my LB decided his cot was more comfy than us so went to cot for naps too. Worked so well for us! X

1st time was traumatic, she cried so much, made herself sick, would not stop crying AT ALL after 1h. Finally tired herself out. Woke up in 30min same all over again. My partner could not do it, held her for 30/45min and she fell asleep (she never does with him). She then was up again after 2h and I just couldn’t. I can’t take the crying for 1h straight multiple times at night. It simply doesn’t work for us or my baby.

We did a similar thing but held our little girl until she stopped crying and then would put her back down. It was a super rough week but it worked and now she is sleeping through the night. I know there is a lot of advice out there about what method to use or not use but you really have to do what is right for you. My LG was waking every two hours still and I couldn't cope so you do what is best for you 👍🏻

It worked well for us, by night 5 he was putting himself to sleep without crying and doing 10.5 hours over night 🥰

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