Feeling down

Do you just feel like you’ve sacrificed your whole life whilst your man continues to do whatever it is he does!? I’m so tired I don’t get a break and he will moan that I’m so moany all the time but that’s the reason!? Or is it just me….. but at the same time you don’t want to be away from your LO 😩

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My partner moans a lot and I feel down because I’m trying to do my best. He moans about not sleeping but I feel like slapping him and saying “I’m the one who always wakes up and makes our baby happy” it’s so hard and it’s draining. I think it’s normal to feel like this I’m feeling exactly the same. It’s not sleeping and your life has changed drastically. It seems like you are doing a great job but I know that feeling, sometimes you want reassurance form your partner that you’re doing a good job. Feel free to send me a message!

I’m in exactly the same situation, last night my partner went for a half an hour bath when he got home from work leaving me with the baby while trying to make tea for us this is after I told him I was overwhelmed and tired, he says same. I’m working from home and taking care of our baby all day. I love it and love taking care of her it’s the best job in the world but would love some support too xxx

i feel this... my other half keeps getting irritated when i get ask him to do stuff over n over again but i can only ask so many times for help before losing my shit on him then he wonders why im so mad -_-

This is me today. I love my son so much but I am tired of doing this 24/7 7 days a week. My husband works a lot and because of that feels like he gets a free pass from doing anything. I'm over it.

My ex done this. It was infuriating and drove a wedge and resentment until I couldn't take it anymore..amongst other things

Absolutely yes!!! All of this.

Yep, I feel you. Sometimes I feel like a prisoner in my own house now, with no money to go out and enjoy myself, get my eyebrows, hair done ect. If I do, I take the baby. Where as he can go to work and go to a Turkish barber shop and get the full works.

Yes, he works, but a mothers job is like 3 full time jobs into one. For me, everyday is the same, there’s no end goal or something to look forward too anymore. I used to look forward to him coming home, now I don’t because I still do everything, so, what’s the point. And if I vent it, I get told “well he works hard, give him a break” like it’s not his kid too. Stfu🙄

This is a total reminder of my hubby he is the sane as yours riiii I feel the same no money to go out and do things so I am stuck in all the time and the same with hubby can go to the Turkish barbers and get the works and then I get the same answer as well he works hard and he needs a break and yes my hubby like to take a half hour hour shower / bath after work when he works as he works week on week off and he then gets in from work and I still feel like I am on my own never mind cause

when I die I want to come back as a dad in my next life. Cus they have it Fuckin easy

I agree

me too honestly!

Exactly everything you said. I’ve just stopped asking him to do things now and just get on 🤷🏽‍♀️ exactly the same with baths and Turkish barbers! I can’t remember the last time I had a bath rather than a super fast shower (90% of the time with company!), I can’t remember the last time I got to lay in even though he was off work. Or even have someone make you a cup of tea. Even just the small things, a bit of appreciation. We’ve been up all night - really bad nights sleep, he’s gone to golf…honestly! Makes me feel better that it’s not just my house but also infuriating that we are all dealing with this. xxxx

I could not agree more. I’m so done with asking for anything, it’s just so baffling how they think they help so much but they actually have no idea what it’s like to have them all day everyday. I would absolutely love to have a unaccompanied long hot shower or bath without having to worry about them! Oh and because they’re tired because THEY chose to stay up and watch what they wanna watch everything must stop so they can rest the following day… what the actual f love!

I genuinely think it’s done without realising rather than being mean but that doesn’t make it any less annoying does it! We need a Mama support group to all have a rant in! 😂❤️ xx

I totally agree hubby stops up late to watch what he wants to see on tv I go
To bed as I no I will be up in night once I even have to get up for the dog needing a wee drives me mad i would love to have a shower without thinking about them I have to always think about them my hubby has to go and have a nap middle of the day not me I am not aloud so I have to be up with little one it’s a joke isn’t it girls I feel for u all

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wtf moment?

I have been going back and forth with my husband lately. Well not lately it’s been years. He is the best husband and father you could ask for; for two weeks. Then he’s inconsistent. It drives me mad. Then he’s back to husband and dad of the year , then back to same inconsistency. I talked to him about this last night and he said “if i was lovey dovey and acted like this all the time you’d get bored and cheat on me.”

Ok so for starters i know some of you are going to say omg omg omg super controlling omg leave omg. No im not doing that. Im happy he finally admitted his wrong doing and taking accountability for it but id like to know the deeper reason, the what the f has him thinking like this reason, the personality trait reason. He’s obviously scared I’m going to leave him; so much so that he’s doing this dumb shit to prevent it. Past trauma? What do y’all think I can do to get him to see I’m not going anywhere? I’m consistent already, I married him, we have a baby. He really is the love of my life. I have never loved another man like this before.. but this shit is for the birds and he thinks he’s keeping me doing this but in actuality it’s making me lose respect and detach.

worried about a family members baby

So this child is three months old and she isn’t being fed from 10pm till 6/7 am idk if this is normal or safe and it’s been like this since 2 months i believe as she won’t wake her for feeds she goes to the pub drinking most nights with her baby and her baby has already been in hospital with a very low temperature bc she was outside but as soon as she was in a warm car she warmed up and doctors said she was fine she lets cats play with her bouncers toys that go over her and doesn’t strap her in she is cold from what i’ve heard from other family members and they’ve tried to warm her hands and she’s wet herself at my parents and she hasn’t had a spare vest to put on her and i offered her a blanket as she didn’t have one and she declined and she won’t listen to anyone about it she’s already left the baby with my parents for the night to go out drinking and personally i couldn’t leave my three month old because my parents said she just cried and im really unsure whether to report her or not and her house smells of dog wee/poo as she’s never home to look after them and that’s not safe for the baby i understand being lonely but she doesn’t need to go to the pub every night her friends could
go
to hers or her she could go to a cafe that has closed doors not sat outside a cold pub and it’s a bit of a rough pub in my opinion

my parents are concerned btw but they say i shouldn’t report her as it’s not fair but i feel how the baby is treated isn’t fair

Does anyone else hate their partner?

I’m now a little over 2 months postpartum and I’ve struggled with genuinely just not liking my partner anymore since we found out I was pregnant last year. I catch myself just staring at him with hatred because I’m so sick and tired of his bullshit. He is just now getting a job and has not had one since THANKSGIVING!!! Meanwhile I was working full time until I finally got too sick to be able to work. I genuinely want him out of my house but I depend on him as far as driving goes bc I don’t have a car. I also still love him deep down and don’t want to put him out on the street but he’s driving me genuinely insane. Any advice?

Heartbreak

After years of trying, months of back and fourth on the fate of our marriage, indecision, fights. The whole enchilada my husband and I are separating, divorcing. Whatever. I'm so goddamn heart broken. I feel like it's a death and I'm in mourning. We have a 3 year old son and currently and for the foreseeable we are going to coparent and live together. This makes things harder because neither one of us can really move on but it's how it is. He understands and he's trying to heal too. But I can't understand why now that things are over he can be kind. He's been more amazing in the last week since I ended things than ever. Why couldn't he do that when we were together for years I begged for change, we saw a counselor I tried everything and he just wouldn't. Now he seems to turn a switch and be able to just do it all. But it's too late. My heart aches. My body aches. Love sucks.

Partner works incredibly long hours, how much do they help out?

I'm struggling. Have been for a while. I've had one break from parenting my daughter, that was for 3 hours in December when I left her with her dad.

She's 14 months old and I'm just tired. I've done every night by myself. He's out of bed at 4am and doesn't get home until 7-9pm. He drives for work, very physically tiring.
On the weekends he was doing 6 days, one weekend day off, but now has both off.

He doesn't sit on the floor and play with her, he doesn't read to her because he says she doesn't have the patience.
He will pick her up and hold her whilst he's cooking.

Recently I've been "snappy" with him.
He got back from the mechanic last weekend, she was getting onto the sofa and he put his headphones on and started to watch Netflix on his phone.
The same day I told him I was going to run her bath and to watch her whilst she was still eating, he fell asleep on the sofa.

Today he went to football after going shopping, so was out 1-3 and then from 4-8.
He got back and I was snappy.

"I don't get why you're so snappy with me"

I said - Probably because I haven't had a break since December.

"Do you think I don't know you haven't had a break. I haven't had a break", "I just won't go to work, I'll sit at home all day".

Then "do you think I like not having a connection to my child"... But that's on him? He never sits to play with her. He "doesn't see the point". He's stated that this age is boring to him.

Since she's been born, he has been to a friend's once a month. Football - He stopped going for 7months, but has been the last two weekends.

Are these not breaks?

He does do the washing/washing up/cooking/vacuuming when I haven't had a chance to; but I'm the one in charge of feeding her, naps/bedtime, teeth brushing, hair brushing, baths, dressing her, making sure she has the right shoes, appointments etc. Everything falls on me.

If your partner works ridiculously long hours, how much do they look after your child? Do you ever get a break?

Am I wrong ?

My daughter’s 1st birthday was Thursday and nobody wished her a happy birthday from her dads family but his mom watched his story. Should I put my foot down and set boundaries for them to accept accountability or should I just let them stay on that side for as long as they want and not worry about it?