Please, please can someone one help me?
I’ve had the lowest sex drive for about 2/3 years. I keep blaming one thing after another but in reality it’s just me.
I’ve never really enjoyed sex but I’m sexually attracted to my fiancé. We tried exploring and it turns out I’m a fan of anal but with all the prep and the cleaning I just can’t be bothered. Even since I lost my virginity I’ve ‘faked it’ until I started exploring with my partner.
But I just can’t get it the mood and it’s driving us apart.
For context, I’m 24 and he’s 25 with an extremely high sex drove.
I need some way of fixing this any help please?
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Often a perceived lack of desire is down to so many external factors, from hormones, to mental load, stress and more. I would recommend downloading my sexercises for desire and pleasure from my website and completing them together. To see if you can find your way though this.
Also try sexual currency. A term coined by Dr Karen Gurney. For regular touch. That doesn’t just mean you want sex. Lingering kiss, a brush as you pass in the hall. A touch that’s too intimate for a relative but not overtly sexual. Try and touch 10 times a day to build that subconscious desire.