Body image

Throughout pregnancy I've been loving my growing bump and still do somewhat. But sex is really uncomfortable for me and I feel embarrassed and not in the mood for it, which has lead to my body confidence going down the pan, I keep feeling down and crying, my other half has been supportive with the fact we've nit been having sex, but I know he's watching porn to fulfill his needs. He doesn't know I know and it's made me feel even worse about myself and my looks. HELPP!! AM I NORMAL

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I think it’s normal not to like your body sometimes when you’re pregnant, my sister was like that. However, I didn’t mind it. We are all different. Just give yourself a gentle reminder daily, that you are literally growing another human inside of you 🤗

@Rachel it's making me feel so crappy, I know he has needs, but it's made feel really embarrassed because the girls in these pornos aren't the size of house with stretch marks. And because I cant tell him I know its making me resentful, I have a feeling of guilt because he's unsure of why I'm so upset or moody. It's horrible x

Humans can go without sex. It isn’t a life or death need. The fact that he is secretly getting off to porn and this bothers you is a problem.
You need to tell him you know about the porn and tell him how you feel.

A truly supportive partner would stop watching the porn, knowing it makes you feel worse. Besides, pregnancy and PP are not forever. He will get to have sex again.

My husband loves my belly, but sex IS hard. For me, though, it is mostly because I’m so tired and the belly gets in the way. There are other things that can be done, though, if y’all are up for it. 😝

Your body is growing a whole life and you gotta get bigger to accommodate that life! Besides, your face is beautiful! (I say your face because that’s all I can see in your profile pic)
Maybe encourage your partner to compliment your appearance more often? Or to continue to try and initiate things with you, even if you’re not in the mood.

We’ve kinda stopped now because I just can’t move around very easily and I felt like a turtle on its back 😂 but it doesn’t mean your husband won’t find you amazing still. My husband remains in awe that I’ve been so unwell during pregnancy and I’ve still managed to grow a baby who is perfectly healthy!! The porn issue is a personal one- if it bothers you then tell him x x

I found out once because I used his phone and saw it, so then I checked it myself when he was in the shower and saw, and I don't exactly know how to tell him. I don't want him to think I was snooping x

just be honest. Honesty goes a long way!

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Love my husband. Love my kids. But…

I’m 32 weeks pregnant with twins. I take care of my 4 yo, 2 yo, and 1 yo. I barely have energy to stand anymore. I cuddle and watch movies with my kids all day at this point. My husband is less pushy in this pregnancy in wanting to be touched or love up on me. But I feel more like a tool these days more than ever. He gets frustrated (not to a crazy degree) but I can tell he huffs because he’s probably sexually frustrated from me not wanting to be touched on. (my boobs are super sensitive atm) I love having the babies part, but the pregnancy also now has me feeling like a baby making machine. And a tool with big boobs made for touches and my husbands pleasure. Ofc I love my husband and kids, but with my hormones all wack, it really doesn’t feel the same when you’re not turned on. It’s so hard for me to get turned on. I’m uncomfortable all the time in my own body. Babies moving in there all the time. My children cuddle me all day but get rowdy at the end of the day, so I end up getting touched out and I can get irritable when my husband tries to touch me affectionately. He doesn’t have the tact necessary for me right now, when I wish he wanted to go in for a normal comforting hug I’m let down more often than not, there is almost always a boob groping involved as well. I tried to just let him touch me last night so he could get it out of his system, but he could tell I felt tense. Wish my boobs weren’t such an uncomfortable place for me to be touched. Idk why I’m making this post. Probably just to vent. Wish men were equally as emotionally intelligent as women. Wish I didn’t feel like I still owe him something because he’s picking up a lot of the house load and yet I still need to ask him to do more before these twins arrive. He’s tired every day when he comes home, so he takes a shower sometimes works out, and helps get the kids to bed. So it’s a struggle getting him to help any further than that. Weekends are my only time to get to him. But it’s a struggle to find time on weekends too. I know if he wanted to he would. But there’s just no drive.

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