being told you’re a bad mom

You are not a bad mom is not easy to be mum is stressful sometimes but him to tell You You are a bad mum is not good at all and disrespecful don't brame yourself i feel that you are a nice person if you want to talk feel free to chat ok

You’re not a bad mom. You’re trying your best. He’s being toxic with the “not yours but mine “ situation. The idea of being a bad mom because you struggle is such a bad thing. You are a first time mom, it’s going to be hard, you will struggle, but eventually you will get the hang of everything so don’t beat yourself up. Don’t let his words get to you either, he doesn’t know what it’s like and he doesn’t understand how to raise a child. It’s obvious that you love your daughter, you care about her well being, and you aren’t ashamed to ask for help when you’re at a loss. Stay strong mama and you will get through this.

You are not a bad mom. I can’t imagine how it felt to be told that by him :( don’t take that on (you deserve better)

I’d make him do everything. Since you’re such a “ bad mom” you need to focus ALL your attention on your child. So if he’s hungry , HE can cook himself something. He needs clean clothes ? HE can wash them ? HE doesn’t like the mess in the house HE can pick up the house I mean it’s BASIC things a person should know how to do. And if he doesn’t know how? “ It’s not my fault you a grown ass man are incompetent of taking care of yourself “ he doesn’t like it ? Maybe he shouldn’t mistreat the mother of his child when he could have taken her when he got off of work ANY of those 3 days. And if he was too tired ? What a father he is 🙄 make him feel like shit the same way he made you feel. He wants to go low GIRLLL GO TO HELLLL !!!!

Thank you all for your comments and for taking time out of your day to be supportive; I feel loved and heard🩷 I’m definitely in need to setting some boundaries with everyone around me, I’ve always been the type to always accept what I’m given just to avoid any conflicts but now that my daughter is here I realize that needs to change

a huge part of me wants to do this so badly but I know I can’t go through with it😭 but you know what, you right I need to start taking those steps

I didn’t see things like this now that you mention it; her whole childhood is literally in my hands, I need to make it the best I can with what I can; instead of sad scared memories I need to start making them happy and adventurous thank you🩷

yea, it’s hard to admit it but yes he is like that many times, it’s like anything I do sets him off

thank you for your comment, sending you lots of strength and happiness🩷

I do not feel you are a bad mom.. every mom struggles. I struggle too and sometimes I feel like I'm a horrible mom.. but we are only humans and being on auto pilot can be overwhelming..
Your husband probably didnt even mean it and just said it in the heat of the moment. Xx

You are NOT a bad mom! I’ve recently had a struggle feeling like I was a bad mom and not deserving enough to be a mom. You have to trust yourself and believe you’re a good mom. Having the negativity in your mind will slow you down from being the best mom you can be! No matter what anyone says, as long as you believe it and confident enough to say “I am great mom and will continue to be a great mom” no one can stop you from being just that! They’re are always going to be struggles, but just keep doing what you’re doing and keep going! Hang in there mama! 🩷