Depressed

Has anyone else felt like this literally lost their selves since being pregnant? Just constantly stressed out and depressed? Sometimes just want to give up but you know you can’t? Wondering if you made the right decision? I’m so stressed guys I don’t know how I’m still here.

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I’m having times like this. Mostly because I feel like I no longer own my body. But i have been reminding myself that I’m meant to be a mom. I cry every time I say it.

Yes i was feeling confident in my first trimester. I am 22 weeks now and started feeling insecure around 20 weeks. My mood swings are hitting me harder than usual, im doubting myself more and feeling unloved. I started to think “did i make the right choice”. Then i realize there is a reason for this and feel slightly better

I agree I’ve been having the most stressful eventful pregnancy journey.. this one is so special because it’s I’m doing it all for my rainbow baby … but y’all I’ve been questioning why this baby sticking like does this means it’s time for me to be a mother I cried this morning but I feel punished in a way because “I didn’t wait” but this is my rainbow … my new beginning🫶🏽🥺💯🌈👶🏽🥰
I have to fall in love with the new me … body inside and out

Girl yes it is a constant battle for me. I question if I am really ready, praying I will be a great mom, struggling with body positivity, etc. My inbox is open if you need a friend.

you will be a great mom depression hits hard i am feeling like this now not to mention my kid father doesn’t want me

I just lost my brother and only sibling. He passed away from motorcycle accident. I’m currently 22 weeks pregnant. I wish I was able to enjoy my first pregnancy :(

100% feel this you’re not alone!! It’s hard really hard. It’s not all sunshine for a lot of moms

I’m so sorry for your loss 🙏

yes I always question if I’m going to be a good mom or if I’m doing the right thing it’s really stressful especially because my partner adds on to my stress as well and thank you so much ❤️

rainbow baby here as well that’s why I went through with this pregnancy I didn’t want this to be my last chance and I didn’t take it. But the further I get the more I just think like am I cut for this? Will I be able to give my child a great life! It’s a constant battle in my head and I’m so worried about postpartum

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Family culture difference on money

Sorry this is long, I hope some of you get to the end and give advice!!!

So I’m a very thrifty person, things are tight at the moment, the cost of living crisis and my house is heated by oil so things are extortionate. We aren’t on the bread line but we aren’t flush, hubby might be made redundant so there is some financial pressure.

Sometimes I buy my sons something nicer, on the justification that I can sell it on after (♥️ vinted ♥️). I have also been planning on pretty much breaking even most of the baby things I bought from face book market place, side by crib, baby changing unit, etc.

Hubby and I have different money cultures with our families (he’s Indian, I’m British). I’m my family we don’t mix money, we would help each other out if someone was in trouble and will get each other gifts on special occasions. With hubby’s family money is much more fluid, they will give each other things worth thousands of £ just because.

Hubby’s brother bought him a new laptop and a new Google phone, he’s been very generous to hubby. Hubby hasn’t given the same back because brother is much richer.

Hubby and I mostly share finances. If it’s relevant I’m the higher earner.

Now to the point! My babies are so cute they’ve given hubby’s brother (currently single) baby rabies. He’s asked for our baby stuff when we’re done with it. He’s been so generous to hubby I feel really stingy saying no. But I’d never have bought some of the stuff if I wasn’t going to get a return on it - the thought makes me a bit anxious. If we gave all our baby stuff given the second hand value it still wouldn’t equal what the brother had given hubby.

I thought maybe I could give him some stuff but sell some stuff, but hubby said then his brother will just have to go out and buy that stuff, so I should name my price and ask his brother for the money. That makes me feel very uncomfortable, given how generous the brother has been to hubby.

So what do I do ladies? Give it all and suck it up? Give part of it and sell parts on Vinted/FB, or ask hubbys brother for money for it and be uncomfortable? Or do you see another solution?

No one is being entitled or rude here, just a culture difference I need to navigate.

Advice

Hi everyone! I honestly have 0 social queues when it comes to talking to anyone in general. I definitely have a hard time talking to other women and making new friends. I can 100% relate. I just don’t like the idea of texting or meeting up but when I do I’m like “oh this isn’t bad.” Any advice? I also have a hard time getting comfortable and just feeling judged by other women😅 I’m also 19 so maybe making a change in this now will help in the future making mom friends/friends in general. Thanks in advance!

Looking for more same age friends!!

Hi! I’m 23 and a stay at home (soon to be) mom. I have been having a tough time finding friends/women in similar circumstances to mine and would love to make some if possible! If you feel the same, let me know

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