I’m finding life too be hard & I’m feeling a little bit selfish bringing my child into this world ..

Does anyone understand what I mean? I’ve just started my period and I know my emotions are exacerbated but I just feel like I’ve brought my child into such a shitty world. I’m really struggling with adulting.. like it’s just hard. You’re constantly having to think about ‘the next thing’ and making sure you have all these important things and having to pay for car repairs .. and shit like that lol. I know I sound irrational .. but I just feel like I’m drowning in adulting.. I love motherhood and I wish I could just be a mum, wife, friend, sister but I have to be .. an adult lol

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All of it honestly. I got on well with money etc until I was pregnant, then my car failed it’s MOT at the end of last year and was too much for me to warrant fixing with a baby on the way, then there was buying all the things for her arriving, then partners car had to go in for an MOT the same day we had to go in to get induced, he ended up selling his car for a more family friendly one (but mainly for me to use because of our daughter) but it was pointless because he’s always got it for work so I barely get to use it and still pay for half of it. Not to mention he gives me no help with keenly house etc so I pay all the rent, food shop etc and i’m constantly worrying about money. I love having my daughter and I WOULD NOT change her for the world but sometimes I wish I could go back to the past where everything wasn’t such a worry😅

I love this post as it’s very relatable. Adulting is hard, we all just get on with it but many of us share the same thoughts in our quiet moments. It’s good to have a moan but really we need to keep moving forwards. Bringing a child into this world is you bringing some light into the world, your bond with your child should hopefully make you a happier person and you get to give another human the purest unconditional love x

Snap 😮‍💨 between money worries, running a household and all the other bells and whistles that come along with everyday life I feel like I'm not able to fully enjoy motherhood. I'm always planning what's next instead of living in the moment and it's exhausting 😔. I just live in hope that things will get easier at some point and eventually I'll have a moment where I can finally catch my breath.

honestly, it’s exhausting! I’m finding I’m not enjoying things like I should because I’m too busy worrying about ‘the next thing’
We are currently in a similar situation re: the car and I feel so blessed to have a car but it’s like bleeding money!

definitely don’t relish in your feelings but I’m so glad you can relate because I keep looking at people and wondering what the hell I keep doing wrong and why I’m struggling .. is this just life lol?

Lol yep totally get this. What makes me sad is that you don't get a day off from adulting 🥲

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One of my old friend's is visiting where I currently live and we agreed to meet up today but I feel so tired and exhausted from everything that's been going on with me. I feel if I meet her I'm going to end up having another breakdown from the exhaustion which I have been having often. I'm just thinking about how I need to rest to be able to deal with my toddler and go back to work on Monday without feeling like I need another weekend. I'm torn on what to do so I need you guys to help me decide

Is it bad of me to think this or no?

My husband has been abroad for work (1 day and exploring for 1 day) for 2 and a half days which means I’ve had both kids (1 year and 4 year old) for 2 and a half days plus cooking, cleaning, taking them to clubs, bedtimes!
He came home late afternoon and said I’m so tired, I just need to chill. I said can you wash up whilst I sort kids dinner out, he said he’ll do it later which means he won’t do it and I’ll end up doing it so I said no do it now please otherwise I’ll end up doing it and he said well you have been home and I’ve been away so you’ve just been relaxing.
Don’t know what planet he is on but having the kids alone for 2.5 days is not relaxing. I was stressed!

When he was away, I did miss him and wanted him to come back but now he’s back, I want him to go away again😂
Is that bad?

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Is this normal ? He won’t even try anything I eat .. he really only like pizza fries and spaghetti… nuggets and snacks bananas some other fruit but like anything else he won’t eat if try but I don’t want to force him I’m just I feel like bad I mean he isn’t losing weight I breastfeed mostly still

Feeling like I’m failing

Hey guys, I need some advice or some positivity here!
My daughter is 5 months next week and she has her first tooth coming through! Yay! But for the past month or so she has become so wary of family whenever I go to visit! She screams, won’t settle, cries the whole time. I went for my birthday to celebrate and I had to leave because she just would cry looking at anyone :( it’s so hard because she used to be so good with anyone!

Will this change or is this just the way she is? I try to see them as often as I can, and my MIL is looking after her in two weeks overnight and part of a day and I’m petrified of what’s going to happen, that she’s going to scream. My poor MiL 😭. I’m a very calm and collected person and I don’t get worked up when she does react this way… I just feel so sad and down that I can’t be with family and that my poor girl is scared. I give her so many cuddles, milk, toys, going to a quiet room, but she just doesn’t settle 😭

Please someone say this is a phase and there is light at the end of the tunnel ?!!

With the weather getting nicer I just feel we are going to miss out on so many lovely family memories

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I know people don’t always mean it in a bad way and are trying to relate, but when people say my baby is hungry when chewing his hands. I feed him regularly. He eats pretty much every 2 hours. He isn’t hungry, he just loves chewing and exploring his hands. Or they say something about teething, which it is also not, as he isn’t unsettled with it. I have looked into it myself and can be common and neither of those things! He has done it most of the day since 2 months old.