“You hold him too much”

How to deal with parents who tell me I hold my son too much? He’s 3 months old 😐 & I honestly only think they say that because when they look after him for a couple hours they can’t handle it and just want to blame someone else.

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Tell them to piss off.... It's so bloody annoying when other people try to tell you how to look after your own child. Also, the Health Visitor said you can't hold them too much when they are that age. They still think you are 1 person and don't realise that you are now separated.

not to mention whenever we put baby down during a nap they more than likely always wake up!

My little girl is nearly 8 weeks, and when I put her down once she's asleep, I can guarantee she will be awake within 10 minutes. Contact naps are so much better. I'm happy as long as I'm prepared and have my snacks, a cuppa, and my kindle.

Tell them you can't spoil a baby. And it's your baby and you want to hold him. If they don't want to watch them then fine. My baby is 11 weeks and I've never had anyone watch him but me

Ask them to read this and then they might understand. Sounds like they need some educating! https://www.nct.org.uk/baby-toddler/emotional-and-social-development/what-fourth-trimester

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NHS job

Anyone work for the NHS and does 12 hour shifts? How do you work around childcare and your partners job?

He has no respect for anything to do with me.

Husband and I decided to separate 3 days ago. I've been sleeping on the floor in the kids room, and we both have to stay in the same apartment for a while. He wont stop pushing little things and I am reaching my limit. Photos in comments

Toddlers

How often are your toddlers asking for food? My oldest who is 3 just finished a whole plate of food and not even 10 minutes later he’s requesting more food. I know he’s going through a growth spurt, but how do you respond to this.

Is this normal?

Is it just my husband that does this? He is able to work from home via his computer and in the mornings and evenings he is on there doing his job. When he is done for the day he tends to stay in the room and either play video games or watch something. He will occasionally come out and play with the girls for a few minutes and that’s it but when I really need him he says he is busy. My daughters are both 1 year old now and I am just wondering how much involvement should he have with them now?
Idk if this is the norm or not…..

Identity crisis?

Am I the only sahm who feels like they have lost their identity??? I don’t make money for my family, when I used to make great money. But I refuse to drop my under a year old baby off with strangers.
My husband works so much. But I have no control over bringing in money and I’m a control freak type of person! I feel l like I’m losing my grip because we are kind of broke, but day care would only eat up my income anyways! So what’s the point. I’m a workaholic and now I’m just a twitching bum.
I wish I could work from home but so far that’s a fake dream. I’m almost 9 months pp, and I just need to know these awful mood swings and depression will end soon! Send wine!

Saying NO to buying toys etc

5 year old is getting really envious of others. He is obsessed with items that other kids have at school. I am pestered daily to buy these things in a different style when we already have 3 others. I have seen parents just buying stuff their kid likes which I don't necessarily agree with even when i can afford it. How do you deal with it?