Anyone not put baby in their own room yet?

My baby is 8 months old and he's still in with me, in his big cot and happy. He isn't a night waker, but I just can't imagine moving him out when he's so little still? Every now and then he'll come in with me to co sleep, especially during teething or leaps.

Why is it recommended to move them out so soon? Is there any harm in keeping him in until he's 1 maybe longer.

Happy to hear experiences!

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I still have my LB in our room in his cot. He likes to wake at least twice a night, sometimes more. So we sometimes co-sleep as well just so my husband gets a good night's sleep ready for work.

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She's in the other room in her big cot but I sleep in a single bed next to her as waking up around 3/4 times a night. I don't think I will go back to the other bedroom until she's at least 10 months

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aww well done Mumma! Thats all positive signs she's feeding well at night, super woman working too!

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yeah same boat here! My husband hasn't been home for 9 weeks now (work) so I do love having baby join me sometimes 🄰

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My little one is 8 months and still in with us. We’ve had a really bad spell of waking until we recently took the side off his cot and we now sort of co-sleep. I couldn’t imagine him going in his own room yet, the thought of him waking and looking for me is quite upsetting x

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My LG is 8 months and still in with me and will be for ages yet, I would love for her to have her own room but currently in emergency accommodation so no can do

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My little girl was 9 months on Friday last week, she's still in with us in her big cot. No plans to mover her yet. We had our 2.5 year old in with us till he was 19 months. The bedroom baby should be going in is at the other end of the house but I think she'll share with her brother for a couple of years so just in the next room to us, I can't bear the thought of her being on her own yet x

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My 7 month old is in with us still and the last couple of weeks has been co-sleeping as otherwise wakes up screaming every half an hour and none of us sleeping. I couldn't imagine what he would be like in a different room

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Still in our room, and in the next to me! She’s got plenty of room in it and she’s a really quiet solid sleeper. Don’t want to rock the boat too much šŸ˜‚

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I was going to keep my girl in the same room for as long as needed or we both wanted but I found me and my partner were waking her up a lot so we tried one night of her in her own room and she slept amazingly so we have carried on, although most nights she ends up in our bed from about 2-6am. It’s literally just whatever works for you and your family isn’t it šŸ™šŸ¤

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I don’t think it’s recommended to move baby out of the room but more so, if you want to then 6 months is the minimum age to do so.

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I'll try and link to the you tube version of a live sleep q+a I attended. The experts said six months is the minimum because the SIDS research often stops then, not because it's actually better for babies to leave your room then. It's biologically normal for them to want to stay with us and in many non western cultures it still is the norm until puberty! I loved having my toddler in with me until this baby arrived in March and will be keeping him in our room until it no longer works for us.

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I'm thinking my toddler and baby will share too at the point they're no longer in with us because I don't want them alone!

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@Ayşe the only reason we moved our little boy into his own room was because we had another baby on the way. We moved him just before Christmas last year so he had a few months to settle in and not feel like he'd been pushed out when his new sister arrived and had to be in our bedroom. His cot is on the other side of our bedroom wall and we keep the camera on all night I have the monitor with me so I'll know straight away if he needs me x

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sounds exactly like our set up. Did you find it really emotional? I felt I was kicking my baby out for a new one? We had a five week gap between toddler moving and new baby arriving and I was so emotional about it!

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https://youtu.be/nhLcXHwgBu4?feature=shared

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That's the talk I referred to

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@Ayşe yes I was very emotional about it I even slept in his room on the 1st night! I cried when he came out of his next to me and into his big cot even though it was only like 2 foot away from us! He does love having his own room though and being able to come upstairs and play with the toys we moved up for him x

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ah bless him! Same. We've ended up putting a single bed in with our toddler šŸ¤¦ā¤ļø

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Not yet. We planned on it, but her sleep has really gone downhill the last couple months so easier just to reach over instead of going to another room. As soon as sleep improves, we will

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Mine cosleeps with me

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We have put our son into his own room because he wasn’t sleeping properly in our room, every noise me and dad made ur would wake up. Put him in his own room he sleeps through the night now so. Bonus

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@Ayşe we have a double bed in with him so if he's poorly one of us can sleep in there with him, it will have to be changed to a single bed cos we get another cot in there at the moment x

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We are co-sleeping and plan to do for another year or so or whenever she herself is ready. Could not imagine having her in a different room.

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Thanks all! Just wanted to check I'm not setting myself up for failure when he does eventually go in but I'm in absolutely no rush, I love waking up to see his face right there 🄰

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We are trying tonight for the first time as we keep waking him up! By moving etc, plus he outgrew the next to me months ago and is in a travel cot as big cot doesn’t fit in our bedroom!
I’m nervous but think he’ll love it šŸ¤žšŸ¼ think I’ll find it harder than him!

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