am I being unreasonable?

So bit of long story but will try keep it short my sons dad mum / grandmother hasn’t met our son yet who is coming up to 5 months because when I was 9 months pregnant she verbally started attacking me screaming in my face calling and saying the worst things about me under the sun wouldn’t let me leave the room I was visibly upset and panicky this came to me from nowhere as previous to this we got on well and I ended up in hospital after this nearly in preterm labour had to go on best rest etc not long after our baby boy was born from emergency c-section and was in nicu ( not saying this is her fault but the stress didn’t help ) my sons dad explained to her she wasn’t allowed to visit us and she had to build bridges. she never has once apologised or tried too. Fast forward now me and father of my son aren’t together but we are civil and I am due to visit him around the Christmas holidays ( we stay in different countries ) and he was asking about his family to see our son and I said of course long as it’s not your mum and this ended up with him being annoyed so we didn’t speak about it anymore. The thought of seeing her really makes me so anxious and panicky the things she said to me I will never forget for example she said it wasn’t normal to be with your newborn baby 24/7 because I said I didn’t want her to take the baby out for hours herself and obviously you just want to be with your baby especially at the start and that I would need to pump straight away as I don’t formula feed so she could have the baby and this was before he was here ! and because I had bad mental health in the past 10+ years ago I will have post partum depression, which I don’t I have been amazing single mum to my boy and I am really proud of us and our journey so far. I am being totally unfair or would anyone feel the same ? I just feel like she’s extremely toxic and doesn’t have any boundaries and fact she was so horrible to me pregnant with my son makes me so upset still I would of felt differently if she tried to apologise but she hasn’t and she made such personal hateful attacks towards me that I will always think she’s thinking that about me

in our community

Is this normal?

Is it just my husband that does this? He is able to work from home via his computer and in the mornings and evenings he is on there doing his job. When he is done for the day he tends to stay in the room and either play video games or watch something. He will occasionally come out and play with the girls for a few minutes and that’s it but when I really need him he says he is busy. My daughters are both 1 year old now and I am just wondering how much involvement should he have with them now?
Idk if this is the norm or not…..

Saying NO to buying toys etc

5 year old is getting really envious of others. He is obsessed with items that other kids have at school. I am pestered daily to buy these things in a different style when we already have 3 others. I have seen parents just buying stuff their kid likes which I don't necessarily agree with even when i can afford it. How do you deal with it?

Thoughts?

your soon to be brother in law (upon inquiry) told you that only a few kids from the family were attending his wedding because they are over the age cut off..

Tablet for kids

Alright don’t need any negative Nancy’s telling me not to get my 2yo a tablet so if that’s what your gunna do please don’t participate in my poll.

We’re about to move cross country 3+ day trip and my 2yo and 9m hate the car I’m talking scream their heads off till they are out of their seats. We’ve already changed car seats and it didn’t help so I’d like to at least have one entertained and sit next to baby and try and distract her or put her to sleep. Our new car has tvs but since they are rear faced my 2yo can’t see it.

Debating getting her a tablet or dvd player right now on long car rides I end up giving her my phone because I get so overwhelmed sitting in between both of them screaming and crying.

And yes I do bring different toys I bring snacks I play songs try to distract her other ways but for the sake of not losing my mind on this move I think this is best.

-A very overwhelmed and anxious to move mama 😓

Daycare?

Thoughts on daycare?? Truly, I am SCARED to be leaving my kid for daycare. I literally do not trust anyone, not even family (they haven’t given me a reason it’s just trust issues on my end, you never know). He’s turning 3 and I’ve been a sahm the whole time but tbh my man doesn’t make enough for us to move out somewhere more calm . We live in a ‘not so safe’ area in LA and I’m just not used to living here so I just want us to give my son a better life and in order to speed up the process I would have to work.. I do lashes at home and I’d be open to take new clients so I wouldn’t have to look for work but I’m just scared to lose my license 😭

Struggling

My husband works and does so much for me and my baby girl. However I get annoyed every time he hops on a video game he usually plays for 1-2 hrs if she's still awake and has like 3+hrs of free time once she goes to sleep (i co/contact sleep). The last time I was able to have actual free time was last month when I tried to turn some onesies into shirts for baby girl to sleep in- and I wasn't able to finish them and haven't picked them up since lol. The only free time I get is while she's napping right next to me where I can't move an inch or breathe too deeply or she'll wake up, or when I shower. Crafting used to be my outlet and now if I were ever to tell him that I need to craft I don't even know what I would do or where to start I just sit there and stare.... just losing myself and I'm struggling with it. Does anyone else feel the same way? What do I do?