Motherhood anxiety

Hi lovely, this doesn't sound dumb whatsoever. Becoming a parent is the biggest life change you can undergo and it sounds like you have had lots of rough things to contend with all at the same time. I am really, really sorry to hear about your mum.

I have anxiety and I know how tough it can be. The fact that you are worrying about things means that you really care about this baby already and that you will be a fantastic mum. You may just need a bit of support in place and that's completely fine. Speak to a midwife or your GP, anybody who can make a referral for you, so you can get that support in place sooner rather than later.

With regards to making decisions/buying things, it can be overwhelming but try to remember that women have had babies for hundreds of thousands of years without all of the resources and optional baby bits that we have today. Sometimes I think we live in a world with too much information and it confuses things. Get the basics and you will figure out the rest once baby is here.

@thank you, just you responding means a lot.. I tried to have a conversation with the midwife but she didn’t seem interested; I’ll try my GP. Will take each day as it comes… I’ve got the basics for baby.. think the thought of knowing all future decisions regarding baby will be down to me seems daunting.

Mama you got this! I believe that everything happens for a reason and this baby is meant for you. Pregnancy can feel lonely, I’ve had my fair share of mixed emotions during this time and yes, watching all the happy mamas/couples on here really suck sometimes because it’s hard to embrace it when you are going through some rough times but once you meet little one you’ll realise that this was the best decision you’ve ever made❤️

You can always message me if you need to talk xx

I've felt so low, I lost a family member just before finding out I was pregnant & it's really played with my mood, and found pregnancy really tough. I didn't want to tell people about it but it was the best thing I did to speak to my GP & health visitor about it. I tried to speak with my midwife but she hasn't been very supportive either - but the gp and health visitor pointed me towards support groups like mothers for mothers who have been so helpful. They also put me in touch with the perinatal mental health team at my hospital, who are also great at listening & providing support. I really recommend enquiring to see if your hospital also has a team. It really is worth reaching out. Always here if you need someone to listen & sending all the positive goodness to you & your mum. X

Thank you ladies .. you’re all amazing for responding with such lovely words of encouragement. I’ll keep trying and take all your advice on board 💕