Anyone's else arms hurting from holding baby?

I'm a stahm with a 17 month old and a 2 month old and this 2 month old I have he's a velcro baby I tried using our baby carrier and my husband doesn't trust the wrap thingy so this results of me either holding him or me laying in bed with him attached to my boob most times, it hurts my back and shoulders and my arms he weights a littler over 14 pounds😮‍💨 I feel like by the time I set him down he cries anyone else have a big velcro baby attached to you?

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yes! my baby is tiny but i’m in pain from holding him constantly. the second i sit him down he’s screaming and kicking.

Hey, I get your husband’s concerns however if you use a wrap properly it can actually help with back pain because it distributes the weight across your whole shoulders rather than straining your back forward. Just be careful though with holding the baby all the time without support because I did that with my first and I have chronic back tension because of it, much harder to repair your back once you injure it. Take care 🤍

we don't even have the extra money for the wrap atm my husband is changing jobs

I find that a baby wrap really helps to give my arms a break!

gotcha, I know this isn’t for everyone but I went to JoAnn’s fabrics and bought a knit fabric that I made mine out of, cost me $11 to make it. But I am decent on the sewing machine so I get how that might not work for you. Anyways, take care of your back, I wish I had never messed mine up in the first place. Try some stretching when you can!

My baby is up to 19 going on 20 pounds at the moment and constantly wants to be her and walked. I was dealing with terrible back pain until I got one of the hip seat carriers. He is knocked out in like two seconds walking around and carrying him with it. TOTALLY RECOMMEND!

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