Being told how to parent my child

Omg I'm only 5 months pregnant, but this sounds exactly like my fiances family already 😭 I'm trying to figure out the best way to communicate boundaries around unwanted advice before baby girl is here, but I know it's going to be tough no matter what. Hang in there. It sounds like you are you are doing great 🥰 ignore them!!

Awfull people... they should just shut up. Especially that their tips are terrible and even dangerous.
Keep being proud of yourself. You know what your baby needs and keep refusing them to help. You definitely don't need that kind of help.
You are doing great

thanks, yeah I struggle with fighting my ground, especially when my hubby is also too scared of his mum to fight her! Lol

I also feel like my mil is trying to rush my son to grow up faster! I said to her I don’t want him to grow up fast and said yes we want him doing new things!
She’s also told me “I loved when people offered to help with my 2 boys, I couldn’t wait to hand them over!” 😳
I love my son and hate being away from him!

thanks that means a lot! Just annoys me that just because they have kids they think they know better! But this is my child not there!
Plus not to sound horrible but they have all had sons that have been a handful (including my hubby apparently lol)

I feel like I wrote this myself! I've found that asking them for help with certain things makes THEM feel better and bug less. I know this sounds hard and is hard but will make the biggest difference is to stand firm and set boundaries. Tell them how you feel when they do stuff you don't want them to do. Specifically using "I feel..." Statements.

Like when my mom continues to feed baby after I asked her not to I say, "I feel like you're not allowing me to be her mother" or "I feel frustrated when you when you take firsts away from me."

I had a bit of this at the beginning and I simply said you’ve had your turn now it’s mine. My daughter is 9 months old next week and I’ve never left her with anyone other than her dad and not because people haven’t offered but simply because if we’re in a position to luckily handle things between us I don’t see why we should. My husband feels the same as me so it’s been easier to handle those comments. Because we’ve been quite firm from the get to - including no visitors (other than our mums) in the first week, the family very quickly got the message. They might think you’re awkward etc but who cares, it’s your child and your journey 💜

I actually said to my mum a few weeks ago "Do I have "moron" stamped on my fucken forehead or what?" And she looked puzzled. I said "Thank you, he's MY baby. Stop telling me how to raise my child. He's alive, he's healthy." She went on to explain that as my mother, she just forgets that I'm not her baby anymore and I'm a capable human being... I calmed down a bit once we spoke. You should try talking to them. I didn't think of that perspective... But tell her the truth. "You're making me feel bad and I don't appreciate it. This is MY child, and I'm perfectly capable of looking after him, thank you."
Alternatively, start calling her by HER MIL's name... Bring her back to when she was a first time mum and how much she would have HATED people interfering.

No they wouldn’t dare. Speak up tell them to stay in their lane! Maybe because am older or because I am known for speaking up 🤷🏼‍♀️ Sometimes you have to ruffle a few feathers to keep your own sanity 🫶🏼

Be firm with your boundaries its better to do it earlier rather than later. If it breaks a few hearts or you are called difficult, let that go over your head. But at least they won't be crossing your boundaries ever again. And be firm with them again and again until they get it. If not, limit interaction

The orange 😩

Ignore them… I had a bit of this when I first had my son.. a few comments back like ‘you had your chance to raise your kids this is my way now’ 🤣 and they stopped.. as for physio I can 100% confirm they don’t do physio for kids who aren’t walking until 2 ;) so tell them to shove their opinions

People always think they are helping haha just set boundaries girl! 💕 Again and again! Tell that if you don't ask anything it means you are ok. You are the mama ❤️ take care what is yours 💕 now it's you and your baby! And dad. You are family 💞 you deside blinking x

I was told but I never cared 😁😁

Going through same and it sucks my mother in low baby sits my baby while I am gone to work. She has no boundaries and disregards instructions. And lectures on parenthood all the time.