Health visitors

Does anyone know how they work exactly? I’ve requested a visit a few times now and no one bothers to get back to me. is there anyway I can change who it is or is it based on where you live?

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I think it's based on where you live but there are multiple HVs for each area.

With mine I received a letter before baby was born saying they would come and visit pre-birth, then once baby was born they came for the standard visits then we made appointments adhoc based on when I felt I needed them.

Are you pregnant or have you had baby?

The one we originally got is apparently on sick leave and it seems like we’ve not been given another one. I have a 7 month old which I’m looking to get advice from them but when I leave a message on their office voicemail they don’t get back to me 😂

sounds like they've dropped the ball somewhere in assigning you another
one!

So frustrating when no one gets back to you! What about flagging with your GP surgery that you don't have one and see if they can follow up for you?

yeah I feel like I’m going round in circles and I hate being rude about it but I’m getting so frustrated that I’m reaching out for help and not getting anything back

totally understand! Especially when that's what that service is there for! Do you have a red book? Wondering if there are any other numbers or an email address or something you could try in there?

I met mine at 30 weeks I’m now 34 weeks she’s currently covering for someone who is off sick where abouts do you live? Do you mind me asking we could have same one

But then at 32 weeks had a phone call from another HV saying she was assigned me so there not very good at communicating by the looks of things 🤣

yeah I don’t think they are 😂 I’m in Harraby and was assigned someone called Ashleigh

I do but there is only the health visitors office number in there which is what I’ve used. Think I’ll just have to contact the GP and try get their help… for them to tell me it’ll be a health visitor issue 😂

I’m currock area so don’t think they would be same unfortunately and neither of mine are called Ashleigh but Yehh mine said I could have her I might not once baby comes 🤣 so will be interesting to see x

so frustrating for you! Hopefully the GP manage to help you out!

Mine never leaves me alone 🤦🏻‍♀️😂 , could you maybe put a complaint in to your assigned HV manager? I done this with the first HV I had as she was awful and complained and got a new one Xx

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