Keeping it secret

Anyone else really bad at keeping being pregnant a secret. I’ve told people at work and close friends, I just can’t help myself! Then once I’ve done it I feel guilty like something bad is going to happen now because I’ve told someone. I just want the world to know why I’m so tired, needing to pee all the time and not drinking Pepsi max aha. (I prioritise my morning coffee)

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Me!! I want to tell literally everyone because my brain is so scrambled I think everyone at work thinks I’m useless!! Caved and told my best friend today and I felt that weird guilt too, when realistically telling people isn’t going to have any bearing on what happens on our pregnancy journeys 😅

Me two but the only people that know is my Brazilian jujitsu coach and my boyfriend and close family who I trust

Yes me too!! Only my partner knows, and I have a group on WhatsApp for TTC but I don’t personally know any of them but they know😂

Me! I only found on Sunday (and it was a bit of a shock) I’m only 5 weeks with no obvious symptoms yet! But I know as soon as I see people and I’m not drinking (especially over the festive period) that friends will guess! I’m also meant to be going on 4 hen parties next year that everyone is looking money for and I know I won’t be going 😫

You’re all better than me at keeping it a secret 😂

I tell random people to satisfy my need/desire to tell people 😂😂😂

Omg that’s such a good idea, UberEats comes oh I’m pregnant btw ahaha

Lol me too !! I’ve told my sister in law my friend and a lady on the phoen cause she heard my toddler and we started Vibin about being mommas lol I’m excited but also feel guilty telling anyone cause I’m only 4 weeks 🥹
And I feel a little guilty towards my 19 month old but I know she’ll enjoy having a sibling once they can play !

I struggled too and had the same guilt but did it do what you like x

We go along the rule of who would we want to know if something went wrong and we sadly lost the baby, so select close friends and family. I might have to tell my boss soon as I feel ropey as F, but don’t feel guilty,

I’m sure you’ll be absolutely fine & if not, think of all that support you’ll have should anything happen (which it won’t 🤍)

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Love my husband. Love my kids. But…

I’m 32 weeks pregnant with twins. I take care of my 4 yo, 2 yo, and 1 yo. I barely have energy to stand anymore. I cuddle and watch movies with my kids all day at this point. My husband is less pushy in this pregnancy in wanting to be touched or love up on me. But I feel more like a tool these days more than ever. He gets frustrated (not to a crazy degree) but I can tell he huffs because he’s probably sexually frustrated from me not wanting to be touched on. (my boobs are super sensitive atm) I love having the babies part, but the pregnancy also now has me feeling like a baby making machine. And a tool with big boobs made for touches and my husbands pleasure. Ofc I love my husband and kids, but with my hormones all wack, it really doesn’t feel the same when you’re not turned on. It’s so hard for me to get turned on. I’m uncomfortable all the time in my own body. Babies moving in there all the time. My children cuddle me all day but get rowdy at the end of the day, so I end up getting touched out and I can get irritable when my husband tries to touch me affectionately. He doesn’t have the tact necessary for me right now, when I wish he wanted to go in for a normal comforting hug I’m let down more often than not, there is almost always a boob groping involved as well. I tried to just let him touch me last night so he could get it out of his system, but he could tell I felt tense. Wish my boobs weren’t such an uncomfortable place for me to be touched. Idk why I’m making this post. Probably just to vent. Wish men were equally as emotionally intelligent as women. Wish I didn’t feel like I still owe him something because he’s picking up a lot of the house load and yet I still need to ask him to do more before these twins arrive. He’s tired every day when he comes home, so he takes a shower sometimes works out, and helps get the kids to bed. So it’s a struggle getting him to help any further than that. Weekends are my only time to get to him. But it’s a struggle to find time on weekends too. I know if he wanted to he would. But there’s just no drive.

Go to dinner ideas

Looking for recipes you use in your family that are not the traditional lasagna, shepards pie, ect

If you DO NOT buy things second hand, it is mainly because:

Answer only if it applies to you.

What are we giving our soon-to-be 3yo for their birthdays?

We have the magnetiles, we have the kinetic sand and play doh, we have the play kitchen…

Literally, is there anything left in the world to buy this spoilt kid? 😅

Baby groups?

Hello there!!
I hope you enjoying the 5month babies 🫠 the cuteness outweighs everything over here.
We live in the area of Croydon & need to start going to baby groups ( I NEED it more than him though) but I am a little bit clueless. Any recommendations?
We are happy to travel a bit too.
Thanks ☺️

Hiiii!

Hey yall! I’m Mahala and socially awkward as hell. I’m looking for other moms to connect with to hang out in person or on FaceTime. Drink coffee while the kids destroy the house. Literally anything. Making friends is hard in motherhood when you don’t know how to talk to people. I’m pretty low maintenance friend and we can talk whenever. And I’m down to do anything within reason. Let’s chat!