Are car seats and strollers supposed to be bought separately or do they come combined (car seat cum stroller)

Which one is preferred?

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I believe travel systems are the ones that come with car seats, that’s what we went with - still waiting on our little but the guy at the store who was working in the warehouse area loading cars, had nothing but great things to say about we had bought (he has a 6 month old I think it was). We did the Maxi Cosi Zelia. I liked that you didn’t have to buy an infant bassinet for the stroller separately (the Zelia seat lays flat back into a bassinet)

I also have the maxi cosi zelia system and our guy is 10 weeks now. It's honestly amazing, the bassinet and stroller fold up so easily. And it's really easy to unfold and use. Even if it's a quick grocery shopping trip we will clip the car seat into the stroller cuz its just so easy to do.
I really searched for a system that would work for us as I did not want to buy a stroller and carseat separately as it would be awful to wake a newborn to transfer into a stroller/bassinet.

We got a Graco Travel system and 4 months later we are still loving it!!!! It's so convenient not to have to put baby in a car seat out in the cold winter air.

You can either get a travel system which comes with a compatible stroller and car seat or buy them separately and buy an adapter. We have an UPPAbaby stroller but a Chicco Keyfit 30 car seat and just have an adapter. But it's important to know that it's not considered safe for babies to spend extended time in a car seat (not in a car). So the adapter/system is helpful for quick trips but if you're going to have them in the stroller longer you should transfer them to a stroller seat.

even in a car I’ve been told babies should have a break every 90 minutes to 2 hours while in a car seat?

hey, I am also looking to buy the graco. Which one exactly did you buy?

yeah I think you're right, something like that

@Gurneet https://www.gracobaby.com/strollers/travel-systems/full-size-travel-systems/modes-nest2grow-dlx-travel-system/SAP_2163398.html

We got the Chicco travel system and love it. It was on clearance but it's been great. We were looking at the evenflo pivot system and the only thing the Chicco didn't have was the lay flat bassinet style seat for the stroller but we still got out on a lot of walks with the Chicco carseat that clips into the stroller

I liked the Graco infant seat because it has click connect. Which means you can buy a used stroller with the click connect (pretty much all Graco have this) and an extra base for a second vehicle. Graco also seems to be one of the most widely used, so there was lots of used options available on marketplace etc.

Are you looking for an infant car seat or convertible? Strollers only come with infant car seats.

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wtf moment?

I have been going back and forth with my husband lately. Well not lately it’s been years. He is the best husband and father you could ask for; for two weeks. Then he’s inconsistent. It drives me mad. Then he’s back to husband and dad of the year , then back to same inconsistency. I talked to him about this last night and he said “if i was lovey dovey and acted like this all the time you’d get bored and cheat on me.”

Ok so for starters i know some of you are going to say omg omg omg super controlling omg leave omg. No im not doing that. Im happy he finally admitted his wrong doing and taking accountability for it but id like to know the deeper reason, the what the f has him thinking like this reason, the personality trait reason. He’s obviously scared I’m going to leave him; so much so that he’s doing this dumb shit to prevent it. Past trauma? What do y’all think I can do to get him to see I’m not going anywhere? I’m consistent already, I married him, we have a baby. He really is the love of my life. I have never loved another man like this before.. but this shit is for the birds and he thinks he’s keeping me doing this but in actuality it’s making me lose respect and detach.

Divorced at 5 months PP

My husband just divorced me yesterday.

I'm 5 months post partum and I feel like complete shit. I literally can't stop crying and I don't feel like eating and this whole week my milk supply has gone down due to stress and not eating. What helps with milk supply?

The divorce- on Monday at 5am me and my husband had a small argument on text. It was regarding him not catering to my love language. I sent him a video on how women shouldn't have to ask and how laziness can kill a relationship. We've had many arguments regarding this prior about him not catering to my love language and he doesn't buy me flowers or doesn't think of me. Anyways this night, he text me saying he doesn't do Mother's Day and all that, he doesn't want to buy me flowers because my sisters buy me flowers and he can't be arsed with my moods. He said I've not been his peace and said he's done.
I replied "okay. All I want is for you to appreciate me and love me as your wife and mother of your child. I'm not pushing you away, I'm begging you to love me etc etc. I'm done too."

I come home from my errands that morning and he's upped and left. He took all of his belongings, clothes, drawer, tv- everything.

He didn't ring or text me or anything.

The property is in my name and as he left and didn't leave the key, I changed the locks the next day. I feel this is what pushed him over the edge.

He officially divorced me on Saturday.
I'm 5 months post partum and I have a 5 year old from my ex partner too.

I just want to talk about it with someone that's not biased. Was I asking for too much? I feel he just didn't want to be with me anymore and used this as an excuse? Or is that me overthinking....
Input would be nice xoxo

worried about a family members baby

So this child is three months old and she isn’t being fed from 10pm till 6/7 am idk if this is normal or safe and it’s been like this since 2 months i believe as she won’t wake her for feeds she goes to the pub drinking most nights with her baby and her baby has already been in hospital with a very low temperature bc she was outside but as soon as she was in a warm car she warmed up and doctors said she was fine she lets cats play with her bouncers toys that go over her and doesn’t strap her in she is cold from what i’ve heard from other family members and they’ve tried to warm her hands and she’s wet herself at my parents and she hasn’t had a spare vest to put on her and i offered her a blanket as she didn’t have one and she declined and she won’t listen to anyone about it she’s already left the baby with my parents for the night to go out drinking and personally i couldn’t leave my three month old because my parents said she just cried and im really unsure whether to report her or not and her house smells of dog wee/poo as she’s never home to look after them and that’s not safe for the baby i understand being lonely but she doesn’t need to go to the pub every night her friends could
go
to hers or her she could go to a cafe that has closed doors not sat outside a cold pub and it’s a bit of a rough pub in my opinion

my parents are concerned btw but they say i shouldn’t report her as it’s not fair but i feel how the baby is treated isn’t fair

Forgiving a partner…

Long story short - found out 2 months ago my partner of almost 10 years has slept with two girls, one of which he’s been seeing for 8 months - during this time I was pregnant with our third child and gave birth. (She had an abortion)
I found out, he cut all ties (still works with her)
I want to try and move on from this, we have three children , and a home… I can’t face the idea of being without my children half the time. I want to try and make things work. But I can’t stop the intrusive thoughts / images of the two of them together…. Any advice if you’ve been in a similar situation?
Sick of feeling this rubbish, also 5 month pp so hormones/confidence is in pieces😣😣😣

Does anyone else hate their partner?

I’m now a little over 2 months postpartum and I’ve struggled with genuinely just not liking my partner anymore since we found out I was pregnant last year. I catch myself just staring at him with hatred because I’m so sick and tired of his bullshit. He is just now getting a job and has not had one since THANKSGIVING!!! Meanwhile I was working full time until I finally got too sick to be able to work. I genuinely want him out of my house but I depend on him as far as driving goes bc I don’t have a car. I also still love him deep down and don’t want to put him out on the street but he’s driving me genuinely insane. Any advice?

Heartbreak

After years of trying, months of back and fourth on the fate of our marriage, indecision, fights. The whole enchilada my husband and I are separating, divorcing. Whatever. I'm so goddamn heart broken. I feel like it's a death and I'm in mourning. We have a 3 year old son and currently and for the foreseeable we are going to coparent and live together. This makes things harder because neither one of us can really move on but it's how it is. He understands and he's trying to heal too. But I can't understand why now that things are over he can be kind. He's been more amazing in the last week since I ended things than ever. Why couldn't he do that when we were together for years I begged for change, we saw a counselor I tried everything and he just wouldn't. Now he seems to turn a switch and be able to just do it all. But it's too late. My heart aches. My body aches. Love sucks.