I’m not having a good time

Hey there, my son is almost 11mo and he's at the peak of separation anxiety. I can only imagine that yours is probably in the same phase?
I'm sorry you're having a hard time, please know you're not alone.
For me, the newborn stage has been so so so awful, that even though now at 10mo he still wakes up every 2h, it's already so much better than it was. He sometimes sleep in a crib (not on me anymore omg!!!), which is also so much better.

Are there any toys or books he likes enough to play 2-3min with??

Does he sometimes stay "calm" in a high chair or bouncer? If I give a baby biscuit to my son, he will need a good 4-5min to eat it and he doesn't complain much (usually) during this time.

I wish you the best. 💜

thank so much. Sorry it’s been tough for you too. Never managed to get him in a crib either! He’s fine with toys but I have to be sat with him now. If I get up he follows me and cries. He used ti like books but now the same thing happens. The biscuits are the only thing giving me sanity. He had 5 yesterday just so I could get some things done, made me feel like a terrible mum

I can totally relate!
For the crib, for us, it works best with someone else than with me. Baby screams the first 20min when we carry him, then suddenly falls asleep in the arms. We sit still with him for 5 additional minutes and then we can lay him down. That changed my life to have an hour and a half "free" in the evening. 😊
I try to have as many people around as possible, inviting friends and family, so he can see other faces. Sometimes that helps.

Try toys that talk or make sounds. That's ehat helps me.. I think my 1yr old goin thru that now. Try a kids show also gracies corner cause ye loves to dance, pepper pig, blaze, currently stuck on backyaragains and blues clues lol... or just put some music with a catchy beat n try to dance with them to it. So yall interact but a bit far away.. I tell my lil man ' use your words what's wrong? Do you want to eat etc. It helps sometimes. Also shit you gotbto let em cry sometimes. Nit eating because they won't stay "CALM" IS still. Your def not alone mommas. Try a scout. My son loves his when he works. Scout n a toy that sings. Or just makes noise is a godsend. You got this! We all goon thru the same struggles just different stages. Try to make snackd/food once you get him to sleep.. that currently helps me the most. Hugs😘

Shit that's long.. sorry😅

My LO is so similar to this right now, he will be happy playing with his toys with me sat next to him but the second I get up to make a drink or do anything in the kitchen he will crawl after me and cry and hold on to my legs until I pick him up or put him in his high chair so he can see what I’m up to or his carrier but he’s heavy and so difficult to do some things with him grabbing at things. It definitely has gotten worse since I started going back to work. It’s like he doesn’t know each day whether we’re spending it together or he’s being looked after by someone else. Were getting through each day by trying to distract him, music seems to help, we play the same playlist which he likes, and anything that makes a noise to play with if I give him food when he’s getting upset he just chucks it around 🙈 so yeah each morning feels like playing an escape room until he’s in the car or buggie going out somewhere. I hope it gets easier soon!!

I’d love some time in the evening! He definitely seems to play up more for me which is cute but also frustrating

thank you. He does seem better if there is something on the tv for him. He still comes for me! But I get a bit more breathing time

this sounds exactly like what I’m going through! I have just gone back to work so he is going to nursery a day a week and I’ve definitely noticed it has been worse since.

My little one is pretty much the same. I’m a single parent so honestly my house is a shit tip at the moment. She’ll go over my mums and be absolutely fine though thankfully. She’ll be so happy playing by herself if I’m right next to her/ in the same room, but if I go into the kitchen (open plan living room and kitchen so she can still see me, my sofa is just in the way so she doesn’t have free access to it) she’ll scream. She can climb now too so she gets on the sofa and tries to climb over. If I let her follow me into the kitchen she’ll try and eat the cat food, get in all the cupboards and draws and scream at my feet. I feel like I can’t do anything any more. I don’t even remember the last time I had a bath or shower without her actually in there with me. It’s driving me insane 😭 no advice really, but I will say (fingers crossed) the last few days she seems to be getting better. I’ve actually been able to do dishes without having to have my friends/ sister over to sit with her while

I do it and I’ve actually been making proper meals instead of just throwing frozen food in the oven. Which I’m so thankful for because it means we’re both eating healthier too. So fingers crossed she’s coming out the other side of it! And I hope you get that soon