Sleep training / Separation anxiety

What’s your full schedule and how much sleep are you trying for?

I’d love him to go down 7-6. Right now wake between 6.30 and 7. Nap 1 at 10 for an hour nap 2 at 1.45 for an hour and I have to wake him from both

Do you mean sleep 7pm-6am? You have a pretty short second wake window (2 hr 45) can you stretch that out a bit? I’ve started letting my little one sleep as long as she wants first nap, then either just having just one nap if first wake window was long enough (min 4 hours) or doing a quick afternoon nap of 15-30 min. However 11 hour nights are a bit of a holy grail for us, she does them sometimes but more often it’s about 10.5-10.75 we get. You might avoid the false starts if you get in a bit more wake time and slightly later bedtime.

My lo is the same. She will wake up around 10 & scream. Soon as I get her she's back to sleeping.
Her routine is wake up around 7am breakfast, get ready get to the childminder then she will have a nap around 9:30-10 but isn't asleep for long. I get her around 2pm, once we get home straight for a nap, but I have to nap with her because I find if I leave her to it. She doesn't sleep for long. So when I'm with her, she has 2 hours & she wakes up by herself. Then it's play dinner, bath around 7pm, bottle bed around 8. & now instead of going into her floor bed. She is sleeping in my bed, so I have to wait until she's asleep to leave, which can take 20-45 minutes. She has 2 hours then she's screaming. I don't mind her in bed with me. But she is a fidget & I'm having broken sleep because she will cry when her dummy isn't near by & she can't find it. So I need a bit of help to get her to stay asleep 🙈 so unfortunately I don't have any advice but I'm following x

hey lovely. No it should be four hour wake window for last one - one hour nap at 1.45 and up latest by 3 and bed by four. It’s not a false start we’ve had many times before and if anything it’s like he’s overtired as he passes out the second he gets into bed !!!

very similar to ours! He’s ok with naps but often I do join him for them as he sleeps longer and I need some sleep too!! It’s hard isn’t it I think it’s just wanting to be near us if they were in pain then they wouldn’t sleep through with us!

second wake window is 11am-1.45pm? Ahh well you know best and you’ve got to do what works for your baby, good luck with it 🙏🏼 baby sleep is not easy! X

ahhh sorry see what you mean! Yes it’s just so hard to fit in both naps now especially as he doesn’t nap for short amount of times! Would you suggest moving first nap earlier ?? It’s hard as eventually we will move to two ! And if I move second nap later he won’t have enough time before bed

My LG is the exact same. Slept well in her own room from around 8-10 months and now she is a nightmare! She'll have one nap a day around 12-2:30 and then in bed for 7pm. Will not settle or sleep unless we co-sleep. I don't know what we're doing wrong 😕 x

exactly how I feel and I feel like I am too tired to do anything so will just go on infinitely!

this is exactly how I feel. His wake up is not linked to his wake windows I think it’s the desire to be close to us !

I know this probably isn’t what’s intended, but that feels like a bit of a dig at my response. I’m responding from my personal experience and trying to help, same as you.

we honestly don’t have a set schedule at the moment. I just know that she needs roughly 11 hours wake time in the day and that her nights tend to be 10.5-11 hours max. Capping her naps doesn’t usually lengthen her nights, so she has a later bedtime but has slept through pretty much from 4 months. It’s taken a lot of sleep jenga and experimenting though, and we’ve always really worked on independent sleep, so I think Emily has a point and maybe he’s getting used to sleeping with you

this is what I was thinking of! How did you know your one was rest for this? He still goes down super easy for both naps but could try?

what gentle sleep training did you do?

so so helpful and the situation we had prior to when we successfully sleep trained. Now so much has happened last few months with 10 teeth, travel, colds we’ve been getting him into bed with us so we get the most sleep and I think it’s time to get back to some sleep training tonight! I find it brutal as he just stands up and screams but know long term it’s the best for our family

wow after one night HUGE improvement…now teething again! Haha but when he’s done will reimplement