Also, destroying all the crappy parts of the house will feel SO good 😂 take a hammer to something that's already broken/going to be replaced. Let it out!
If you are an only child, just see it as an investment. Yes, you are spending money on this place.. But it will become handy once it's yours and then you can rent it, renovate it or do whatever.. I am private renting and it's soo expensive, that we cannot save up for a deposit for a house. I wish I had the opportunity to live with parents and save up. But at the same time, I've enjoyed my freedom living alone.
I'm not sure if it works differently in the US but here in the UK if older people need care then they often need to sell their homes to pay for it. So unless they're lucky and don't need to pay for care or have lots of money to do so then children often have no home to inherit. If it works the same way I'd seriously think about it before spending loads of money on a house you don't own.
I don't think you should feel bad, just trying to move in general is horrible everything's touched and nothing goes anywhere yet and you need this and don't know where this is and even with a new house the room isn't as maneuverable as you thought, so hard either way. But with the stress of cleaning and repairing and cost and help or hours of work thats gonna get in the way of working or helping with family and baby stuff and limitations you'll have. No girl, be unhappy. Just don't stay unhappy. Hope you find deals on stuff you like for the house!
@Caroline no that’s not how it works here and plus she didn’t say anything about them selling for care or needing care.
I don't think you're being ungrateful. I think it's just a lot hitting you all at once, especially with a baby, you want the best environment for them! It's easier said than done but try and envision what it'll all be like when you're done! Pretend you guys bought a fixer upper and it's your family project! Something you guys can design and fix up together. YouTube how to do the smaller repairs and make the best of it! My husband and I are about to do almost the same thing! We have a bit of an upper hand though since we know the mess we're getting into lol. But we've just tried to stay enthusiastic and treat it as a clean slate and take on the tasks from most important to least! Don't think of it as a house, think of it as your little ones HOME! All the first words and first steps will be there ❤️ It does suck and I'm sorry all this burden is on you but truly, there's a brighter side to this ❤️